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HAPPINESS. Also entitled, “I LOVE EVERYTHING.”

Today, as I was walking into my building, from work, gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous September day, not a shred of humidity, nothing but blue, sun, and promise—- I had the feeling I get EVERY SINGLE TIME I walk into my apartment building:

I love this place.

So much. I love my building. I love every single thing about it. I love where I live. I love the front desk man who greets us all every, single, time we walk past. I love our mail room. I love the people I see every single day. I love sharing this place with them. I GENUINELY LOVE IT. I love where it’s located. I love the groups of guys that hang out out front, every single day. Without fail they are there, congregating, joking with each other, very loudly, teasing people who walk by, running after each other, talking about Madden. I hear their conversations every single day and can see and hear them from our window. We don’t even have a rapport, I just see them. And it makes me happy to just…see them. I’d feel sad if they ever weren’t there. It wouldn’t feel right. They bring life and energy to the sidewalk.

I love that our sidewalk is constantly buzzing with a car or a person, but yet it’s not like New York City. It still somehow feels homey. I guess like a side street in Brooklyn, just not the city-city. I love the park that’s outside of our windows, the natural sunlight we get, and the TREES that shake and rustle every time wind blows through them. I love hearing and watching them when there is wind, or a storm. I love the way the sun looks behind them. I love our Harris Teeter.

{Directly out our bedroom window, during the dead-middle of a recent storm.}

I love that we are in the most perfect fucking location IN ALL OF DC. SORRY EVERYONE, BUT WHERE YOU LIVE IS NOT THIS PERFECT. I LOVE MY BLOCK. I LOVE MY NEIGHBORHOOD.

I LOVE TRYST.

I love that it’s A TWO MINUTE WALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love going there to get chai lattes and waffles, or coffee and nachos, or wine and flat breads. I love taking friends there. I am PROUD to show them my block/neighborhood.

I love Stroga. I FUCKING. LOVE. STROGA. I LOVE. THAT I WALK OUT OF MY APARTMENT BUILDING, WALK ONE CITY BLOCK, past the guys on the front stoop, and then, I see Stroga. The gorgeous ballroom that it is, where I do pilates and yoga and feel like I am together.

I love walking down 16th street to U, and going to Good Wood. And then 14th street, and hitting up Peregrine, and Estadio, and Pearl Dive, and Miss Pixies, and Standard.

{Me and Alex in overexposure at Pearl Dive this summer}

Back to my building.

I FUCKING. LOVE. OUR BUILDING.

I LOVE OUR WINDOWS.

I LOVE TREMAINE. FUCKING TREMAINE. WHAT A GUY. TREMAINE, WHO I CALL WHEN OUR CLOSET LIGHT BULB DOESN’T WORK, OR THE HOT WATER HAS GONE OUT. I LOVE HIM. I WANT TO JUST HUG HIM WITH THE HUMAN LOVE I FEEL FOR HIM.

I LOVE OUR MEN WHO COME AND FIX OUR LIGHT BULB AND OUR HOT WATER AND THEN LEAVE A LITTLE NOTE FOR US THAT THEY DID IT.

I LOVE THAT THEY ARE SO QUICK AND IT TAKES THEM 2 HOURS TO RESPOND TO A REQUEST TO FIX OUR LIGHT BULB AND HOT WATER.

I LOVE OUR HALLWAYS

I LOVE OUR ELEVATORS

I love. aldjfasljflsjfadsfadsjfldsajfkadslfjlasdfjsdalfs. this.

fucking.

place.

I want to walk out to the side of the building, put my arms around its concrete and just inject my love for it into the walls. I don’t know who to thank. or who to say this to.

I LOVE THIS PLACE SO MUCH MY HEART COULD BURST

I love our sketchy basement and annoying laundry situation. I love getting into the elevator and seeing someone else’s hamper and sharing that human moment “ugh, brutal. laundry day. peace be with you.”

I love the WEIRDOS who live here too, who you get into the elevator with and are like WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU. PLEASE DON’T GET OFF ON MY FLOOR TOO, THANKS.

I love our carpeted halls and ridiculously low watt lighting in the halls.

I LOVE OUR GORGEOUS, STUNNING, HISTORIC, BEAUTIFUL ROOF TOP.

I love 16th street. I CAN’T BELIEVE HOW FUCKING PERFECT THIS APARTMENT BUILDING IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I CANT BELIEVE THAT I GET INTO MY CAR, AND LITERALLY DRIVE FOUR FEET– FOUR FEET- LIKE MY CAR TIRES BASICALLY ROLL TWO FULL CYCLES, and I am at the heart of the city– 16th street– and I can look down and literally see THE WHITE HOUSE/JEFFERSON MEMORIAL/WASHINGTON MONUMENT. BECAUSE GUESS WHAT. THE WHITE HOUSE’S ADDRESS IS MOTHERFUCKING 1600 PENNSYLVANIA AVENUE. AKA 16TH STREET.

I love that all I have to do is hop on to 16th and I am at WORK.

I am LIVING THE LIFE I WANT. I HAVE MADE IT SO. I am living the life I have always wanted. I couldn’t be in a house in the suburbs, or a small town in Ohio. I am living the life I want. My street. My building. The sounds of people outside our window. The grocery store next door. The park across the street. The walk to Tryst– DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MUCH I LOVE IT? HOW BOUNCY I FEEL EVERY, SINGLE, LAST, TIME, I leave my house to walk to Tryst and grab a whole-milk iced chai and recognize so many faces of the neighborhood? How much I love hopping out of my ‘house’ to go to the bank, or to see what’s new at GoodWood? This life, right here, right now, is the life I want. The city. The sounds of the city. The proximity of everything in the city. The boy I live with. My jobs.

I love my job.

God I love my job.

I walk out of the government campus where I work every single day and feel this weird, floaty, rising feeling in my chest. It’s a mixture of…pride, awe, happiness, peacefulness, GRATITUDE, love. I love every single guard who works there. I LOVE the campus itself. I love how its designed. I love its space, its size, its location. I love the geese and ABSURDLY FAT PIGEONS who roam the place, and how smart everyone is. I love HOW intellectual the work is. I love that I am a FED. I love that my badge says “UNITED STATES GOVERNMENT.” FUCK YEAH. Literally I have to nearly run over 27 FAT. ASS. PIGEONS OR GEESE every time I roll into work. Because our campus is beautiful so if I were a pigeon or goose I WOULD WANT TO LIVE THERE TOO. AND I DON’T KNOW WHERE THEY ARE FINDING THE FOOD BUT THEY’RE REALLY FAT AND IT’S KIND OF ADORABLE.

I love that everyone I work with literally saves lives. I love working with patients and their health issues and getting to write and think and strategize. I LOVE MY FUCKING JOB. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I. FUCKING. LOVE IT. EVERY DAY– EVERY DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I walk out of there HAPPY. LIKE I’M CLINICALLY INSANE AND SOMEONE PLASTERED A SMILE TO MY FACE. I AM NEVER UNHAPPY THERE. IT’S THE BEST JOB EVER.

I love my fashion world. I love getting to know people in this city. I LOVE WRITING.

I LOVE SHARING GOOD THINGS. I LOVE INTERVIEWING PEOPLE. I LOVE NETWORKING.

I love who I am right now. I love how confident I feel in speaking at meetings and interacting with strangers and just DOING WORK. I love putting ideas together and executing them and using my brain and speaking to people about business, life, whatever.

I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND.

AND OUR LIFE. AND OUR FRIENDS.

{Me and Alex’s best friend Farley at Beach Bar this summer}

I love our relationship. I love how he looks, speaks, and is.


I love our weekends when we go to Ikea and plan things for the apartment, and when we lay in bed watching Breaking Bad all day, and when we go visit his parents in Massachusetts and when we walk around our neighborhood and talk about everything and when he makes me laugh so. fucking. hard. because there is no one funnier than Alex. I love that he cooks, and has the greatest friends, and that he is sarcastic and sharp and sweet and confident. I love that we hate the same people, love the same people, think the same things about everyone and everything that ever happens, worship Seinfeld, and hate all humans. And that he is just the best fucking person EVER. I love his tall body and smile and floppy hair. I love that he looks like a skinny well-dressed Italian man. He looks like every guy walking down the streets in Rome and is everything I was ever, ever, looking for in another person. I love that he is magnetic, loves fucked up shit like Cronenberg and Lynch films, and observes everything. Nothing passes over his head. I love that he sits with me in the bathroom when I take baths, slays shit at work, and loves me. His brain, and his sense of humor, is the sexiest thing in the WORLD. EVERY TIME HE OPENS HIS MOUTH I LAUGH. BECAUSE EVERYTHING HE SAYS IS SMART AND FUNNY. I would pay him to let me just listen to him say things about the world because it’s all THE FUNNIEST THING YOU’VE EVER HEARD. He is so quick. Humor is the most important thing in the universe to me. If you aren’t funny….what the fuck are you doing here. Get out of here. The world is for funny people. If a person doesn’t make me laugh, or doesn’t understand my humor, I can’t proceed. The way some people have deal breakers about other things. We just cannot see eye to eye if you aren’t funny and sarcastic. I cannot view the world through your eyes. I don’t understand you if you aren’t funny.

I love the talent in our world. I love the shit that people put out there. I want to thank them for their art. Like for stimulating my senses and bringing me joy. I love the films, and television shows, and books, and music, and photographs of the artists out there. I love it all. I love you, The White Panda, for bringing me so, so, so, so, much euphoria.

Every time I want to wake up, smile, be happy, work out, feel good, feel energized, get pumped up for working out, I listen to your music. Your mix tapes are literally a part of my life. I don’t actually know what my life would be like if you didn’t exist. I love you, Ratatat and Crystal Castles and COLD WAR KIDS and Florence + The Machine, and Two Door Cinema Club. I love you, the writers and actors and post production people of Breaking Bad, of Downton Abbey, of Entourage, of HOMELAND. I love you, the authors living and dead of all my favorite books. I love you, Michael K of Dlisted. I love you, genius fashion designers and photographers and bloggers and interior designers and small Etsy shop owners,  who BLOW MY MIND with your creativity. Thank you for literally exercising my eyes. For giving them something to WORSHIP. Thank you to the people who designed and made my favorite boots of all time, that literally make my soul sing with happiness when I wear them.

Thank you to the make-up geniuses who make the mascaras and eyeliners and lipsticks that make me feel pretty and not fugly.

I am so happy to know the people that I know.

To know Denis, whom I met via a BLOG– Just Jared– who reported that Rachel Bilson had gotten her hair colored by him. I’d been in love with Rachel’s faded brunette-copper hair for months and wanted the same look. I wrote about him on my blog. I called his salon. I made an appointment. I saw him. We fell in love. He made my hair look better than it has ever or will ever look. Ever. He has changed my life. Literally changed my life. I love knowing him. I love how talented and sweet he is. I love that he will be doing my color for THE REST OF MY LIFE. I love that when I’m 32, I’ll be calling Denis. I love that he’ll be invited to my wedding and will be brightening up my hair before it. I love that I have him in my life. I look at pictures of myself before Denis began coloring my hair and I weep.

I love that I know the Style Etoile girls. I love how hard working and sweet they are. I love that because of their talent, I have learned of other talents in the world, like Camilla and Marc, Michelle Siwy (don’t have words), IRO (OH MY GOD IRO!!!), Mishca Nonoo, Goldsign, MONA ASSEMI (worship) and What Goes Around Comes Around vintage. I love that they are half the reason I stay on top of amazing new things in the fashion world, just by being my FRIENDS. I love that some of the best, most well-fitting, most long-lasting pieces in my wardrobe exist because they had the EYE to buy them and bring them to their store. I love them and love that they are people who will be invited to my wedding and that I’ll have a lifelong relationship to.

I love Libby and Rachel, such FUN, AMAZING, CREATIVE, DOWN TO EARTH, SWEET, FUNNY (HIL-A-RIOUS) people with equally amazing significant others, because amazing attracts amazing.

I love Ellie, my dear dear dear dear dear friend from the time I was 4 years old, who was my friend regardless of whether we had clean towels, silverware, food in the fridge, or the ghetto-est car of all time. She accepted me unconditionally and is the only female friend in my life who knew me as a kindergartener, elementary schooler, middle schooler, high schooler, college student, and now. I love that we have memories of my pug Mingus, our Isuzu trooper, and my mom’s embarrassing antics. I love that she was the deliberate, measured, even-keeled half to my OFF-THE-CUFF, rash, acts-before-she-thinks personality. I love that you can take her word at EXACTLY face value. I love that she will never let me get away with being a tool, NOT THAT I LET MY OWN SELF, and that she’s just honest.

I love that she we meet for Pilates on Sundays at Stroga, and that no matter where we go in life, WE WILL HAVE THE SAME FRAME OF REFERENCE BECAUSE WE GREW THE FUCK UP TOGETHER. She knows me and my family. My brother. Our house. Who I was as a child. It’s incomparable. She’s also fucking HYSTERICAL. I love Ellie for her dry candor. She thinks I’m insane and always has the TRUEST observations re: my interests. One time, I wrote a blog post ALL about how obsessed I am with the Casiraghi’s and Santo Domingos and Dellals (look it up) and Ellie just goes….” dude wtf. I mean, I’ve never been more confused. If you PAID ME MONEY I couldn’t have followed the  dynamic of these families. I don’t even think THEY understand how they relate to each other. You’re a freak.”  But she loves me for it and I love her for not understanding how the Casiraghis and Dellas and Santo Domingos connect to one another and not wanting to.

I love that she introduced me to Dlisted and thus is basically half the reason I write the way I do. We have the same criteria for whether a human in life passes our test. We have always shared this. We attribute it to growing up with really cool older brothers and going to public school from kindergarten to 5th grade where boys were our friends and not this mythical other species to have issues about and be weird around. We share this implicit understanding of who is a tool and who is legit and we never disagree. The amount of times in our life we’ve shared a moment where someone is referring to someone or introducing us to someone and we just kind of look at each other like “yeah…no. #nope. #nothappening” and it’s all said with a look and a wink and like one word but we just AGREE on the character assessment of the person at hand– IS MANY TIMES.

Are. Her. Glasses. Kidding. Me.Us and her mom

Us and our brothers, at the very same place Alex and I have a view of from our apartment today

Us and my grandpa in our front yard when we were no older than 5

Us and Marlie and our two brothers on our front porch when we were 4 years old. ELLIE’S GLASSES AND STRIPES OMG IT KILLS ME!

This picture. Our brothers. Their soccer uniforms. Ellie’s boots and pants and glasses. The way she is holding me. Our pug Mingus. I LITERALLY can’t. It’s one of my all time favorites.

Us with my mom

We are sisters. Period. Being with her is like being with your sister. I don’t have one “technically” but Ellie is literally my family. It’s going to be A FUCKING SOB FEST at my/her weddings. Like I can’t even think about it because I get so emotional about our childhood and growing up together and the rock that she is. I feel like I would not have an identity without the friendship of Ellie since I was 3. It’s defining, to have a friendship like that in your life.

{Me and Fitz on her rooftop pool this summer}

I love my friend Fitz, who is as completely insane as I am. Equally spastic, equally able to switch from hyper to introspective in a flash, and equally hedonistic. I love that if I want someone to go off a ledge with, it’s her. HAHAHAH. I love that if I want to OD on a bag of doritos, shop with money I don’t have, or make bad decisions (aka– FUN decisions) she is my partner in crime. I mean literally we are the same person. Her name is Fitz, my name is Alina, but other than names we are the same person. I love that if I want to discuss astronomy and how it is that the earth doesn’t just decide to drop one day, she’ll be like “dawg…..I don’t know man what the FUCK is the earth.” And then we’ll talk for 3 hours about space, physics, and how we aren’t just all dead. HAHAH. I love that she is loyal to the fucking DEATH, and would fly to Mexico to bail me out of jail if I found myself in Mexico in jail. I love that she just takes life by the fucking horns and lives it. I love that she understands everything I ever say. Ever. Whether it’s the weirdest, whackest, or most absurd thing ever, she’s not only understands it but she agrees and then further articulates the thought in a way I wanted to but couldn’t. We literally share a brain. I once told her that I feel like a little railroad man had constructed an invisible railroad track between her brain and my brain and a train of thoughts is just constantly traveling back and forth between her train station destination and mine and she was like “DUDE EXACTLY.” hahahahah god I love her. She’s pretty much the only person who understands my sheer confusion at how humans live life– like how they just continue to do laundry, run errands to CVS, and cook dinner, and pretend like nothing’s happening. The amount of times we have had 3 hour phone conversations about how we are too tired to chop lettuce and how does anyone ever live their life and provide for themselves with a dinner that isn’t a bag of goldfish and also provide for other human beings aka their children, is in the thousands. She is a throne of UN judgement and all we ever do is talk about our deepest flaws and fears and issues and crack up and applaud the other one for being confounded by life because I don’t think anyone will ever understand my sheer confusion at life better than she does. Except Alex.

Me and Fitz after running into the Pride Parade this summer by accident:

In her pool:

On the rooftop of Brixton a few weeks ago:

Me, Fitz, and Ellie (we all used to be roommates!) this summer, about to eat at Sundevich, after we took a fun make-up class together:

And I LOVE CAIT’S PUG TYSON, THE GREATEST ANIMAL THAT’S EVER LIVED ON PLANET EARTH:

COME. ON. WITH. THAT. FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IS THIS PICTURE A REAL PICTURE?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. IF YOU DON’T LIKE PUGS, YOU’RE A SOCIOPATH. GET HELP.

I love my friend Kate that is a 4 foot tall ball of energy, passion, and hilarity. I’m FAIRLY certain that our group of friends would agree she is the most funny. Maybe. I mean we’re all pretty funny. But I THINK Fitz AND Ellie and everyone would agree on how hilarious Kate is. Maybe it’s me. OK WE’RE TIED. Her wit is unreal. She’s very very very quick. I love that she is game for anything, and takes such a genuine interest in everyone around her. She always wants to know how your life is doing, what’s new, what’s been on your mind lately. She just genuinely wants to know. I love her hilarious family, her obsession with her dogs, and how OCD she is. She also, like Ellie, is almost polar opposite me. I am a walking mess. All I ever want to do is “fling” things. She coined this term and it’s the most accurate thing anyone has ever said. When I get home from work I literally take my shoes off with force of gravity and just fling them into a corner. I throw my bag down and dump it out when I want to find something in it. I fling my shirt off. When I’m done with dinner I would rather fling my plate onto the floor instead of deal with it. I AM CONSTANTLY FLINGING. When I open a drink in the car and take the wrapper off of the cap, I INSTINCTIVELY just fling it onto the floor of the car. When I get home from shopping, I fling the shopping bags onto the bed. I don’t want to take 2 seconds to put anything down properly in their place. I just want to fling it to the fastest possible place. Kate is the most careful, precise, particular person I know so it’s a point of hilarity between our friendship. No shoe she has ever taken off has ever not gone perfectly into its designated home in her closet. I love our dynamic, being the tall mess and her being the short task master. I love that she just exudes a “buzz” of energy. She is always buzzing. I love that when I ask her what she did over christmas break, she wrote this to me, VERBATIM, THIS IS COPIED AND PASTED DIRECTLY FROM MY GMAIL:

LEMME TELL YOU ABOUT MY BREAK:
i took a half day on friday, december 23, 2011, which is when my break began.  my break ended on monday night, january 2, 2012.  i did the following things during break: watched the most recent season of dexter start to finish, watched THREE DAYS worth of law and order SVU, ate out every meal because i was too lazy to even grocery shop, slept for an absurd number of hours, laid on a couch under many blankets, took 1209809348 baths, washed my hair once, got on facebook occassionally, read your blog (which you need to update), discovered pinterest via my mom (who is obsessed and is sure you know about it [let me guess - you invented it? LOLOLOL!!!!]), drank guinness, made brie one night and ate the whole thing by myself, meant to call you like 10 separate times about boston but would forget or pass out EVERY SINGLE TIME (i took 6000 naps), aaaand watched scarface.  that is all. i. did.

HAHAHAHHAHAHA. I MEAN—->  ” ate out every meal, took 0234383082 baths, washed my hair once, discovered Pinterest (let me guess– you invented it), drank guiness, made brie and ate the entire thing, and meant to call you 10 times but passed out or forgot every single time. And watched scarface.” hahahahah RESPECT.

Me and Kate is 2005: And nearly the exact same picture, 7 years later in 2012– MY HOW WE’VE CHANGED:

On a boat, in 2009:

All smiles in 2009:

Me, Ellie, Fitz, and Kate have taken LOTS of pictures over the years. A little comparative history of the 4 of us over the years:

I love my Portuguese friend Rita who went to Montessori school with me and MY MOM was our teacher.

Us, in our Montessori school, at Halloween– me as a princess and her as some…clown I think, directly to my left! Rita you were so cute!

Rita, who gave me the greatest tour of Portugal a person could ever have DREAMED of when I visited her in 2006 as a 20 year old after having not seen or talked to her for 15 years (since pre-school) and we simply connected over Facebook and were both like “fuck yeah, why not.” I love FACEBOOK for giving people opportunities like that. I mean I literally reconnected with a friend, and enriched my life through experience and knowledge and culture, because Facebook exists. Rita and I would not have reconnected if she hadn’t just…seen my profile through 7 degrees of mutual friends and friended me. Rita’s just cool as shit. She’s just cool, and legit, and down to do anything ever. If I were like “yo let’s go to London and then fly to New York just for the night” she’d be like “alright let me see if I can get out of this wedding I have to go.” She’s also awkwardly intelligent, fluent in like 11 languages, well versed in current events, and confident– AKA EUROPEAN. hahaha that is literally the definition of all European people. Fuck. I want to be European.

I love Stephanie, my roommate and soul sister from Dartmouth, who is Cuban like me, fiery like me, lives in Miami (like my entire family), doesn’t take shit from anyone or anything like me, who makes fun of exactly the same things as me, who ruthlessly makes fun of me for my ridiculousness, who makes me laugh out loud with her sheer disgust for most of the trolls on the planet earth, like the teenagers who hang out at Barnes and Noble, and the trashy trolls who wear their g-strings out of the back of their pants at the mall in Miami, and the guy who worked at the coffee shop at our library in college who thought he was so cool because he would blast like, Led Zeppelin with huge headphones around his neck–unrelated to the music blasting out of the portable speakers he brought that served no purpose– and who would act nonchalant  and we’d be like YOU ARE NOT HOT, stop trying to project an effortless vibe, you are a tool, we are trying to study because IT’S THE LIBRARY and cannot hear over your Nickelback, thanks.

She’s a genius, gives the best advice, understands everything, listens, and lead me to the right path during the most convoluted period in my entire life. Her ability to know a person and give them amazing advice without telling them what to do is uncanny to a degree that she should make it her profession. I am blessed to have a friend like her. She’d listen to me talk for 5 hours straight and give me the best advice while being hilarious at it. She is so beautiful and careful and protective, and every time I’d just, make out with a guy in the basement of some fraternity in college she’d be like, “I mean are you fucking retarded? Why don’t you just wear a sign around your neck that says ‘TAKE IT ALL, I’M FREE.’ You know what you’re like? Like those girls on South beach who just take their bathing suit tops off and SHOW IT ALL to the world– just A FREE SHOW, GIVE IT ALL UP. HERE I AM NAKED GUYS, TAKE IT ALL FOR FREE.” I’d be like “whatever I wanted to make out WHO CARES” and she’d be like “OH! OH OKAY! I DIDN’T KNOW WE ALL JUST DID WHAT WE WANTED WHENEVER WE WANTED. SURRRREEEE YEAH, LET’S JUST IMMEDIATELY DO EVERYTHING WE ‘WANT.’ I wanted to have sex, but OOPS NOW I’M PREGNANT, OKAY! GREAT! YEAH, GO FOR IT. YOU’RE THE DUMBEST MOTHERFUCKER” and she’d start to get the Latin edge to her voice as she said it. I like, flirt with her about it. We literally flirt with each other. In Miami this May, Alex and I were on the beach and for about 2 minutes I felt like just taking my bathing suit top off and TANNING IN THE SUN–SUE ME– and I was like, excited to tell Stephanie because I knew her reaction would be HILARIOUS HORROR and she would tell me all the reasons I’m a fucking idiot and how creepy men now know what my boobs look like and how she’s so happy for me about it. And how she totally understands why I needed to just “feel free” for a moment. {drippppppppppppppppppppppppppppping in disgusted sarcasm.}

Me and Steph at a party in college:

At a club in Miami:

In our room when we were roommates our junior year!

In Brooklyn for Halloween two years ago:

This past May, over Alex’s birthday, in Miami, at this INCREDIBLE garden park she brought us to:

I love my friend Carolina who knows the depths of my soul.

Who is a little philosopher and poet and says things more beautifully in English than I have ever been able to, even though it’s her second language. I spent one of THE most special and formative years of my entire life with her (last, final, year of college) and her friendship changed the course of my life. I love how DEEP she is, how we can talk about death, love, friendship, marriage, violence, art, betrayal, ANY TOPIC EVER, and she literally blows my mind with her words. I love what a beautiful soul she is, how she FEELS so deeply, how joy or pain is felt unrestricted by her. How loyal she is to friends and family, how thoughtful she is about sending Christmas cards or buying thoughtful gifts (we SO have this in common. She, like me, will truly search high and low to find something special that you open and can’t BELIEVE she found for you, and I love her for it). I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE how she appreciates music the same way I do. How both of us would BLAST reggaeton or rap or any amazing music ever, and just dance for hours. I love how she, like me, can be so moved by a poem or song that she just cries and doesn’t even give a shit about it. Yeah I just cried because the poem I read was beautiful, you’re a freak if you don’t cry when you read it. I love how she travels, tries new things, and just LIVES LIFE. She’s a girl after my own heart.

The two of us on our graduation day!

She is the kind of friend who, when I told her that Estee Lauder stopped making my FAVORITE LIPSTICK OF ALL TIME THAT I HAVE WORN EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. FOR THE PAST 2.5 YEARS AND LITERALLY DON’T KNOW HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT, she made me swear not to worry– that she would FIND IT IN PUERTO RICO. I thought “oh you’re a doll for trying to give me hope, but there’s no way.” She made me get out one of my old tubes that I keep around (I have about 7, that I’m still scraping from since they decided to ruin my life by discontinuing it), and she took a picture of it, wrote the info down, went back to Puerto Rico, and called me LAST NIGHT TO SAY SHE’D FOUND THREE TUBES OF IT. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?????????????????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHO HAS A FRIEND LIKE THAT?!!!!!!!!!!!! I. FUCKING. LOVE. HER.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is also another pint-size of hilarity. Ellie is pretty particular about who she thinks is funny, and Carolina CRACKS her up. Alex was completely obsessed with her too. She visited 2 weeks ago and when she left he was like… “so……………..Carolina may be my favorite person of all time.” I’M JUSTSAYING.

I love my friend Whitney, who honestly of ANY OF MY FRIENDS is the most identical to me in terms of our interests. She loves blogs. She loves Pinterest. She loves indie movies. She LOVES meeting new people. She loves ANYTHING cute. Cute restaurants. Cute stationery. Cute shoe boutiques. Cute outdoor patios. Cute portions of a beach. “The cutest little wine bar.” “The cutest little mexican taco joint with $2 dollar tacos.” “The cuttttttest French bistro.” “The cutest view of the city from this path that you climb.” And more importantly– OUR DEFINITION OF CUTE IS THE SAME. She LOVES EXPLORING NEW CITIES. She loves walking for 6 hours in a new city, stopping into 9 coffee shops, 6, restaurants, and 27 clothing boutiques. She loves meeting the owners of the places, making connections with bartenders or other patrons, and ending up going to a party with them even though we just met them 2 minutes ago.

She loves decorating her apartment cute, making a red-pepper-and-goat-cheese frittata for dinner, and waking up early to go to spinning class. The months that I spent living in Barcelona with Whitney were the greatest in my LIFE. She is my soul’s other half. We LIKE EVERYTHING THE SAME. She is basically female Alex. There is nothing– NOTHING– NOT ONE THING– Whitney likes that I don’t like, or that she doesn’t like and I like. In Cabo, she brought me to the coolest hookah bar that she said I would love that had “the best chai lattes in the world.” They were the largest, most amazing, chai lattes and I sometimes lay in bed at night and FEEL myself on the roof of that insanely cool hookah bar in Cabo San Lucas Mexico, with Whitney, drinking that chai latte.This picture she snapped while I was doing it, is maybe my favorite picture of all time:

In Barcelona, we created some of the best memories I’ll ever have at smokey wine bars she discovered, or little hole-in-the-wall joints with amazing happy hours. We’d spend hours, 4 nights a week, at Juicy Jones– this unfathomably good vegan place that we didn’t REALIZE was vegan for 3 months because the food was so good we did not even notice that nothing on the menu involved meat, cheese, or dairy products. If I were in prison, I would ask for my very last meal to be from Juicy Jones. I want my honeymoon to be me, Whitney, and Alex at a table at Juicy Jones. It signifies pure happiness to me. She introduced me to Intelligentsia coffee in LA. To all these cute places that are so ME. And I’d be like, I can’t believe I have this friend who knows so intimately what I like. She might as well be my romantic significant other because SHE KNOWS. Every time she takes me anywhere I’m like YOU DID IT AGAIN. HOW DID YOU DO IT AGAIN. HOW DID YOU KNOW I’D NEVER BE SO OBSESSED WITH A PLACE EVER, WTF, I’M IN LOVE WITH YOU, THANK YOU, FOR KNOWING ME AND INTRODUCING ME TO SUCH INCREDIBLE THINGS.

I trust her recommendation on any venue, any spot in town, any person, LIKE GOLD. I love EVERY HUMAN BEING Whitney has ever introduced me to. She attracts THE BEST FUCKING HUMANS. Whitney is amazing. She is soooooooooooo sweet. So thoughtful. She taught me how to be an adult. She really did. Living with her in Barcelona, and spending time with her at her apartment in Portland Oregon, she taught me how to grow up, without even knowing it. At the same year in college as her, I was living in a dorm and she had moved off campus in Portland Oregon to this amazing studio with all this furniture she had found herself, with all these cooking tools and cook books and cute things, and made herself legitimate dinners at night, (instead of frozen pizza), and took the trash out when it was full (instead of observing it passively for 3 weeks at a time), and could cook all these things, and hosted dinners and I was..in a dorm, and I was like, Whitney, You are INSPIRING and I feel like a joke compared to you. When I visited her apartment in LA and I was still living at home after college, I again couldn’t believe the life she’d created for herself and wanted to copy every aspect of it. I have copied her on so many occasions.

Whitney is also the kind of friend who, when Alex and I visited LA this past February, she f*cking showed up with a picnic basket that had PLASTIC FUCKING CHAMPAGNE GLASSES, a bottle of red wine, nuts, granola bars, bottled water, and more, so that we could go have a picnic together in Griffith Park. I mean WHAT!!!!! I LOVE YOU WHITNEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She also is super dry, hilarious, and will both totally indulge and totally joke at my ridiculousness. Sometimes she looks at me when I’m squealing and jumping up and down and is just like “I….just don’t know.” hahaha she is like Stephanie and Ellie. CALLS ME OUT and is like “Alina, you’re being completely insane, no, the man you just made eye contact with on the street isn’t going to follow us to my house and murder us in the middle of the night, RELAX.”

I love my friend Kristin, who was my VERY first friend at Dartmouth and who I actually get butterflies/slightly choked up thinking about because of how she shaped my first year and all subsequent years at Dartmouth. She was and is that one friend. DAY ONE, she lived directly next to me in my dorm. She shared every love story, heartbreak, party, and all-nighter with me. She would get AS emotionally overwhelmed (if the moment struck us right) by the beauty of snow falling outside of dorm room window as we studied and learned together in cozy sweatpants on a Saturday night. Her brain did and always will astound me. There’s some like, CS Lewis quote about how friendship is that moment when you are like “WHAT? YOU TOO?”, that moment when someone says something and you CAN’T believe they’ve not only ever had the same thought but put it into words into a way that you’ve been trapped and confounded by since the moment you had the thought? Her. Her mind is beautiful, period. She has a beautiful, beautiful mind- she and Carolina are the same like that.

Kristin is an amazing friend, never phased by anything and always making me HOLD my stomach with pain from laughing so hard. FUNNIEST. FUCKING. PERSON. I mean like, genius funny. So funny that 99.9 percent of people don’t understand she’s funny because her humor is SO from a place of genius. If Kristin makes you laugh, then you have passed any test in my book. Like Larry David and Louis CK combined funny but not remotely overt. She ALSO didn’t let me get away with shit, like Ellie and Steph. And she is my Whitney of college and New York– knows every thing I’d like, everything I’d think is cool, everything that would blow my mind. The THINGS she has introduced me to in New York– Everything cool that I have ever done has come from Kristin. I met The Cobra Snake and had a love affair with Jared Leto, because Kristin nonchalantly took me to the places they were at. Obviously without knowing they were there, just because..those are places she genuinely goes in her actual real life, and people like that go there too because they are impossible-to-object-with cool places. I basically do not feel cool enough for Kristin. But also, she is that friend who is most like me in terms of wanting to spend a quiet Saturday afternoon, in solitude with each other, reading books instead of being out in the world with humans. Sometimes we just want to do that and somehow when we want to do it always lines up.

Me, Kristin, and Carolina together at a Halloween party in college:

I love my friend Beth, who ALSO shares the same sense of what a perfect weekend is like.

{Me and Beth in highschool. I love this picture. I think it’s fucking hilarious.}

When I lived abroad in Barcelona, I visited Beth in Paris and the pure, raw, HAPPINESS I felt on that trip is so indicative of what it’s like to be together just she and I. I was broke and she didn’t care that my $20 a day budget (YEAH, NOT EUROS, DOLLARS, I’M NOT KIDDING), limited us– she saw it as a challenge and we had a fucking BLAST. It was an out-of-the-movies, forever memorable, life-time topper of a trip. I can feel, smell, hear, see every single second of those 72 hours. Seeing Notre Dame and Musee D’Orsay and the Lourve, eating french onion soup, falling in love with a French man, staying up ’till 7 am, eating store-bought bagueete + brie + wine for dinner every night, sleeping on her air mattress. Oh my god I can FEEL it. When Beth moved to Brooklyn after college, I continued to have some of the best years of my life on account of HER. I’d go up for the weekend and she’d have my little bedroom ready, and we’d hop on down to Trader Joes and buy their $5.00 bbq chicken pizza and split it for dinner to save money, and we’d go shopping at LF and walking all over the entire city until our legs were violently throbbing. Beth completely understands me– my frenetic-ness, the way I’d stay up till 6 am just from sheer EXCITEMENT at being in New York, and live off iced coffee and bagels, and have questionable love affairs with 21 year old skaters (I was single). Her motto is basically “game on.”

{At a bar in New York together}

BETH, with whom I spent my very first ever Fashion’s Night Out, the first time it ever existed as a thing. I don’t think I’ve ever had that much fun. We just ROAMED every square inch of the Meatpacking district, got schwasted, got free blow dries at John Frieda, crashed the private invite-only part at the Stella McCartney store, and ended the night with drunken street pizza. Classic.

Photos from our FNO together:

And she is also just someone whose work ethic and ambition I majorly admire. We’d go into Soho together mid-afternoon and sit at Cafe Gitane or Fiat, and get a coffee, and just talk about work and life and future plans, because our conversations never had to be about boys or other people. They were always about LIFE, because we connect on a life-level.

A photo of me, Ellie, and Beth together after walking over the Brooklyn Bridge one beautiful Saturday:

I love Tory, and Maura, who I was sitting in math and history class with when I was effing 12 years old. Who I can share memories of Sister Smith with (the evil nun at our school). TORY, who is a comedic genius, with whom I put on a live public performance of Craig David’s “What’s Your Flavor” in front of our entire highschool and people were telling us for WEEKS that it was the funniest thing they’ve ever seen.

YEAH. WE WERE HILARIOUS AS 14 YEAR OLDS TOO, GET OVER IT. We planned a choreographed dance to the song for WEEKS, bought big gulps from 7-11, went up to the podium in front of our entire Catholic school where everyone was in uniforms and being all demure and shit, deadpan asked each other “hey tory, what’s your flavor?”; “it’s funny you ask Alina, ’cause I was wondering the same thing myself.” HIT IT— WHAT’S YOUR FLAVA, TELL ME WHAT’S YOUR FLAVA. We had hired someone to be standing at the back of the room to flip the switch to turn the music on at the exact moment we paused, and nobody knew what was happening and all of a sudden we were conga-lining around the entire auditorium with a choreographed dance to CRAIG DAVID. WHAT’S YOUR FLAVOR. Excuse me sorry, what’s your FLAVA.

WHY YOU ASK? THERE WAS NO REASON. WE WERE HILARIOUS AND WANTED EVERYONE IN THE SCHOOL TO BE LIKE WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS. We had our teachers up and dancing to the song, like an Old Navy ad. YEAH.

Tory, who bought me what is probably my favorite present of all time that I have used, photographed, and blogged about ON SO MANY OCCASIONS. AN ADORABLE, GLASS CHALKBOARD CUTTING BOARD WITH THE WORDS “CHOP CHOP” ON IT. I HAVE NEVER LOVED SOMETHING SO MUCH.

Maura, my little “moral Maura” who is THE REASON I KNOW ALEX. YES, YOU GET A SPECIAL TOAST AT THE WEDDING, THANK YOU FOR BEING A WONDERFUL ENOUGH PERSON THAT YOU BROUGHT THE MOST WONDERFUL PERSON I’LL EVER MEET INTO MY LIFE, VIA YOURSELF. You’re just the most solid, trustworthy, kind soul and have always been just….yourself. Hilarious and not afraid to stay in on a Saturday night with me while everyone else was partying. And you’re also a gourmet cook and it’s awkward. I had THE BEST TIME when you visited me in Barcelona and we had lunch down on the water and talked about how growing up has changed us and then I got a concussion and was immobile for the rest of your time there. You are wise and wonderful and I would ask you advice on ANYTHING IN THE WORLD because I trust your view of life that much. See you at our wedding.

I love my friends who came into my life at a later stage. Laura, my little blue-eyed friend with our shared love for Florence and Kid Cudi and all other good music in the world, who introduced me to the Gotye song 10 months before the rest of the universe because you’re ahead of the world like that, and whose been a devoted blog reader of mine since DAY one. And Jessica, beautiful beautiful soul Jessica, who sees the world through the same lens that I do. Whose photography and appreciation of art and music mirrors mine to an uncanny degree. Who sent me the cutest care package in the world, filled with smells and pictures and anecdotes that blew my mind.

And Alissa, how close we got after college!! You MAY be funnier than Kate. #Sorry. Alissa who ALSO magically knows exactly what I like and introduced me to such all-time New York City favorites as Mermaid Inn and Water Taxi Beach. HOW DO YOU KNOW ME SO WELL??!?!!?? Alyssa is one of those people who ACTUALLY follows through when you say you’re looking for a job and do you know of any openings. NOBODY EVER ACTUALLY HELPS OUT WITH THAT. And Alissa is the kind of person who actually goes to work to help you find a job and follows through and sets up meetings and gets you interviews when you only even really said it in passing and didn’t think anything would come of it. Do you know how rare that is in a person? A follow-through-er who actually means what they say? SHE’S A GEM. YOU’RE A GEM, ALISSA.

Kendall, Alex, and Theresa, who I’ve known since SO LONG ago at Stone Ridge, I LOVE YOU for reading my blog so sweetly and for sending me personal notes on certain posts to express something the post made you think or feel or remember. That makes me happier and feel luckier than I could even describe, and I LOVE YOU for taking the time to write something like that to me. It means THE WORLD and is a forever thing to me. In like twenty years I’ll still be yammering/blabbering on about how much I love you for being an ear to my writing and actually taking the time to send me amazing, personal, thoughtful notes about certain posts of mine. It’s like…..that’s all I could ever want, is for someone to connect with what I’m saying; and I have cherished the comments you’ve left either on the blog or in an email because they’re little human pieces of connection from people that knew me as a 12 year old and that share a certain something with me. I LOVE YOU and am glad we’ve all stayed in touch as adults and have our memories of Stone Ridge and Bethesda together, and could hug you a thousand times over for being an ear to my words. You’ve reached out to me at times when, unbeknownst to you, I was totally over blogging and ready to shut the ‘ole thing down and stop putting myself out there, and the things you said totally reaffirmed why I carry on with this ridiculous public diary of mine.

I love my Dartmouth network of people. People who maybe I wasn’t even THAT CLOSE WITH at college but who’ve been my little virtual friends in the years since, through Facebook or this blog, because no matter what phase of your life you’re in, you SHARE a certain something with the people you’ve been with during that phase. Thank you for liking a blogpost I’ve linked to on Facebook, or leaving a comment. I COULD KISS YOU FOR IT.

I love everyone who has ever spent their own time reading my own words. I am grateful for that. Even if you’re making fun of me or judging me or mocking me afterwards, I LOVE YOU FOR being part of my audience. And to the complete strangers who have ever left me a comment, I. LOVE. YOU.

I am SUPER high on life right now and just want the world to know that I love everything in it.

My friend Carolina, the philosopher linguist genius, gave me a rough translation of a Spanish phrase that’s “show me what you’re bragging about and I’ll show you what you’re lacking.” And it’s totally true right, that person who says “oh my marriage is SOOO GREAT!!!” you’re like “aw poor thing, her marriage must suck. Pathetic that she feels the need to broadcast it.” I KNOW. I THINK THAT WAY ABOUT EVERYONE ALL THE TIME. BUT I DON’T CARE RIGHT NOW. BECAUSE I’M NOT BRAGGING. I’M JUST BEING JOYOUS AND USING MY WORDS TO COMMUNICATE MY JOY. I DON’T CARE IF YOU THINK I’M UNHAPPY BECAUSE GUESS WHAT, IN LIKE 3 YEARS OF BLOGGING I’VE NEVER WRITTEN A POST SO DEDICATED TO MY PURE HAPPINESS, BECAUSE I DON’T JUST MAKE THINGS UP. BECAUSE I DON’T FAKE ANYTHING. I COULDN’T IF I TRIED. I AM A GIANT, GAPING, BLEEDING, OPEN BOOK. IT’S MY NATURE. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO LIE. IF I’M MISERABLE, YOU KNOW IT. IF I’M HAPPY, YOU FUCKING KNOW IT!! AND GUESS WHAT?? THIS IS THE FIRST TIME SINCE I’VE BEEN 22 THAT I’VE FELT THIS. THIS PEACE. THIS PURE, SPREADING, INVASIVE JOY. BECAUSE I’VE BEEN PRETTY TRANSITIONAL. AND PRETTY UNHAPPY. I WAS WORKING AS AN INTERN MAKING $300 A MONTH AND SLEEPING WITH A 33 YEAR OLD ITALIAN MAN WHO WAS RUDE TO ME. I WASN’T HAPPY. I WAS IN AND OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT WASN’T WITH MY TRUE MATCH. I WASN’T HAPPY. I THOUGHT I WANTED TO GO TO LAW SCHOOL AND STUDIED FOR THE LSAT AND “FELL IN LOVE” WITH MY MARRIED MORMON LSAT INSTRUCTOR (FOR LACK OF ANYTHING ELSE SATISFYING IN MY LIFE)– I WASN’T HAPPY.  I WAS WORKING AS A TEMP AT A MISERABLE JOB– I WASN’T HAPPY. I LIVED AT HOME WITH MY HIPPIE BROTHER AND HIS 4 DOGS AND STRANGER ROOMMATES FROM CRAIGSLIST– I WASN’T HAPPY. I LIVED IN A BLOODSUCKING, BOX OF AN APARTMENT IN CLARENDON (MY WORST NIGHTMARE) WITH NO CHARACTER, NO CHARM, AN EVIL CORPORATE LEASING OFFICE THAT FLEECED US OF MONEY AND I HAD A 2 HOUR COMMUTE TO WORK— I WASN’T HAPPY (MY ROOMMATES NOT WITHSTANDING HIIIII ELLIE & CAIT). I MEAN, I WAS HAPPY ON A DAY TO DAY BASIS, BUT I WASN’T LIVING MY ZEN. MY SWEET SPOT. MY ME.

BUT NOW I AM.

AND I WROTE THIS POST FOR ME. AND FOR THE PEOPLE AND INANIMATE OBJECTS I WANTED TO EXPRESS MY GRATITUDE AND LOVE FOR.

I AM HAPPY.

I AM BEYOND HAPPY.

MY HOME. MY NEIGHBORHOOD. OUR NON-CORPORATE BUILDING WITH ITS ART DECO CHARM AND 1950′S TILED BATHROOM AND NO DISHWASHER AND AMAZING, ATTENTIVE, CHARMING, QUIRKY STAFF.

MY COFFEE SHOP.

MY YOGA STUDIO.

MY JOB.

MY BOYFRIEND, FUTURE HUSBAND, FUTURE BABY DADDY. MY BEST FRIEND IN THE UNIVERSE.

MY FRIENDS.

MY NETWORKS.

MY JOBS.

MY FUTURE.

MY ROUTINES.

MY WEEKENDS.

THE FACES I SEE AROUND THE NEIGHBORHOOD AND DON’T EVEN KNOW BUT BRING ME JOY JUST THROUGH RECOGNITION.

THE INTERNET. WORDPRESS. FACEBOOK. TWITTER. THE JOY IT ALL BRINGS ME.

I AM IN LOVE WITH LIFE AND I LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING.

THANK YOU.

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The Weekend

So the second half of my last two weeks, after our vacation in the Northeast, was insane in terms of work. Alex went on a business trip to San Fransisco and I worked 7 am to 7 pm days Monday through Friday. My wake-up call was 5:30 am, I’d get ready, stop for an iced chai, and be at work before 7:00 had struck. Then LEAVE at 7, get home at 8, have dinner at like 830, chill for a little bit, and continue working till about midnight/1:30. It was unrealllllllllll but I also love it because I love my job so I get a weird buzzed thrill off it. I genuinely dont’ mind/secretly enjoy being too busy to take 4 minutes to walk to the cafeteria because I literally can’t. NONSTOP phonecalls, emails, meetings, pre-meeting prep, and Excel document creation/analysis/editing, etc. Then the weekend really truly feels like the weekend and you get to enjoy yourself and step back from all of it, and then get back to it. Friday night at 9pm my boyfriend returned from San Fran, and he’d told me we were going to check out some of the wineries in Virginia on Saturday (something we’ve wanted to do for awhile).

But, I was SO tired/dead from like 4 hours of sleep a night the whole week, I didn’t know if I was going to be alive enough to leave the house ever. I was a zombie Friday night and we just caught up on our week and cuddled and he told me to look forward to Saturday but that I could sleep in while he did some things. I was like, oh PERFECT, cause I’m fucking exhausted and all I want to do is do nothing ALL DAY. Including going to a winery. I want to lay in bed until 8 pm and then get dressed up, eat dinner, and go right back to bed. But I said all of that in my head.

Well at 11, Alex came back and I heard him shuffling out in the dining/living room and I had already woken up but was reading in bed– had 4 pages left of the 3rd book of The 50 Shades of Grey triology. I’m so traumatized, angry, fuming and a million other horrible things by the books and how stupid/idiotic/offensive/disturbing/RETARDED they are, and how bad the writing is and how annoying the main character and “Mr. 50 Shades” are, and how all I want is to punch the author in the face because I don’t understand how someone could write 1000 pages of the worst trash in the history of America/the world and create what I think must surely be THE most DISLIKABLE character in the entire canon of world literature from the beginning of time.

The character doesn’t have ONE redeeming quality. You can’t relate, you can’t be sympathetic, the only thing you can want to do is literally burn the book. I wish Anastasia were real so that I could cause bodily harm to her, but not in a way she would enjoy. She is such a TOOL for Christian and gets all scared of him every single page (oh shit, is my fifty mad at me? oh no. holy fuck. what do I do? I can’t breathe air without him, what if he leaves me?), but then like, begs him to touch her 5 seconds later and you’re like “have you ever interacted with a man before?” “do you have any common sense or any strength to play hard to get and not be HIS BITCH?” And Christian…is just NOT COOL. If he were real, you’d be like “this guy is a fucking freak.” Like freak central. He’s a loser. All he ever does is “flash her wicked grins.” He just walks around town, flashing wicked grins.

And the stupid phrases from the book like “Mr. Twitching Palm” and “My megalomanic, my fifty, my kinky fuckery” and “Elena Bitch Troll Robinson” and Charlie Tango and her subconscious who is always looking out “from her spectacles over her dog-eared copy of Jane Eyre or The Complete Works of Charles Dickens.” I mean my body was basically physically SQUIRMING with every word I read because it was so painful to read that I reacted physically. I was in hell. Governments who want to torture enemies should force them to read 50 Shades of Grey because there is no worse punishment.

And any erotic author who refers to vaginas as “my sex”– as in: “he carefully moved his fingers over my sex,” and “he knelt between my legs and blew on my sex” — needs to just get it the fuck together. E.L. James…..I don’t even…I don’t even know. I GET IT, okay, SHE MADE LOTS OF MONEY, blah blah, but I will not give her the credit of saying, “she is smart because she knew what to write to make millions.” Yes,  she is a gagillionaire now, great, and she wrote about bondage and S&M and stuff to make money– but she did not intentionally write HORRENDOUSLY to make money– she actually thinks she’s a good writer! That’s the hardest part for me. Her characters and the things they would say and think– Anastasia and Christian and Jack Hyde and Kate and Mia and all the other fucking trolls of the book– E.L. James thinks they’re cool. She talked to young people to do research for the book and thinks she did a great job capturing what young people (in their 20′s-ish) think and say these days. She goes to bed at night and is proud of her writing.

She wrote about dirty sex to make money from prude housewives in Minnesota that could only imagine this stuff in their wildest dreams, but she thinks she’s CLEVER, and that’s the worst part. Her little repeated references (like the subconscious and inner goddess), and the STUPID knicknames she would always give minor characters, like, “Mrs. Hot Pants 2012″ and “the crack whore” and “cocktailgate”, and she refers to her unborn fetus as “little blip” and how she  always references her “Manolos” and “Audi R8″….like EL James genuinely THINKS she’s “with it.” She thinks she knows the cool things 22 years old want, like “Manolos.” omfg.  And that she created this dreamy 22 year old that’s not just a whore, but “smart.” She’s this  in-demand book editor and references Tess of the Dubervilles and talks like Joey used to talk on Dawson’s Creek– a.k.a. out of a Thesarus, but is a bitch for a billion dollar CEO and gets to ride around the world in private jets and live what EL James thinks is everyone’s fantasy– being absurdly rich with a brooding dark man who ties you up in bed.

Except, to explain WHY he is mysterious/likes to be dominant in bed–because apparently no one can just like that and they need to have a sad past that explains it–Christian is screwed up because of his “crack whore mom” who beat him and abandoned him so he likes to beat women in sex in return, so of course Anastasia is going to be the first and only woman to make him see that he doesn’t need to take out his mom issues on women– because she is sooo smart and sexy and innocent that she’ll be the princess to win Christian out from his dark ways and make him realize he can still spank her in bed without being violent about it blah blah blah blah blah.

The entire thing is such a joke. She has an assistant and is like the head editor of the company 1 month out of college and then marries Christian 3 months after meeting him and they have two kids by the time she is 24. The amount of references to Manolos and Audi R8′s *ALONE* made me want to kill myself, let alone the writing DURING their sex– oh christ–her inner monologue in italics “holy fuck. what? he wants to touch me there? does he find that hot? holy shit. why is this arousing? oh my god. why do I find the sight of his erection hot? Oh I dont fucking know Anastasia, cause it’s a hard dick. GET THE FUCK OVER IT.
oh my god. he wants to pull my hair. Why? Will that make the sex better for him? Do I feel comfortable with this? But he’s just so hot…so…and in control…my Fifty Shades.”

“He wants to shave me….there. Will it make him happier if I am hairless down there? Should I try it? It seems intimate….and so hot. Fuck. Why am I aroused by this?”

OH MY FUCKING GOD. GROAN GROAN GROAN GROAN GROAN. Every sentence I read was a GROAN. YAWN. CRINGE. My entire reading of the books was just me GROANING at how unfathomably ANNOYING this character is. Oh god, and the ‘witty’ banter that is supposed to show that they’re flirting but also smart and well spoken:  “fair point well made Mrs. Grey,” “As to you, Mr. Grey.” THEY CALL EACH OTHER MR. AND MRS. GREY 6,000 TIMES A DAY THE SECOND THEY GET MARRIED in an attempt to be coy. “My nipples are hard Mr. Grey.” “Fair point well made Mrs. Grey.” KILLMEKILLMKILLMEKILLMEKILLME

And the sex is retarded/romance-novel-y!!!  It’s like, “I said his name out loud as he bucked into me, freeing my breast from its bra cup and finding his own sweet release inside me crying my name out as he collapsed around my soft flesh.” The amount of times the word “buck” and “release” were used……she should be executed. Everyone’s just always bucking and releasing into each other.

And Christian’s always “warbling and croaking” and eliciting a “low groan” from deep within his throat. Reading through these books has been the worst hell I’ve ever been in. AND NO, I COULDN’T STOP OKAY, THAT’S WHY I HATE MYSELF SO MUCH. It’s like probably some form of OCD, where once I start something I CAN’T stop. No matter how bad it is. If I read 3 pages of a book and the plot is teased into my head, no matter how atrocious it is, I have to read. I can’t start something and not finish it. I’m just screwed. It’s like “well….fuck my life, here we go….can’t stop now.” What’s funny is the ONLY book in my entire life I’ve ever started and NOT finished was Eat Pray Love. It beat my pathology. My brain was like “I know that we have to close doors once we open them, but there’s really nothing we can do for you here because this book is just….fuck it, we can’t.”

So I was able to stop reading it and not have it bug me that I’d started a book and not finished it. 50 Shades was as bad if not  A MILLION TIMES worse than Eat Pray Love, actually far far far far worse, but…. because they’re like the biggest phenomenon of all time and I am pop-culture obsessed, I had to know the WHOLE story before the infamous movies comes out. Once I read one of them I couldn’t not read the other two even though every time I opened the book I’d announce to myself/everyone around me “I hate myself right now, I want you to know that I HATE MYSELF right now, so you don’t need to do it for me, because, I LOATHE MYSELF for doing this.” It was a nightmare and the last title of the book is Fifty Shades Freed and I’M THE FUCKING FREED one. I can just live my life now, free of having to see the words “Anastasia I’m going to take you over my knee” in print every 3 pages. Also she calls her stepdad Daddy. So there’s that. I just can’t.

But I I’m free. As I read the last few words on the page- FUCKING FREE–Alex came in with a tray from all the places he’d gone while I was sleeping/freeing myself from the tyranny of E L James. He’d gone to Smucker Farms for their very last peaches of the season (best I’ve ever had), their fresh bread and butter (other bread/butter is just budget compared to this), my favorite– an iced coffee from Peregrine, and fresh flowers from Flowers on 14th.

It was so refreshing but the best part………..was when he came in with 1.) A TV for our bedroom (that he’d won at work for writing the best report), and he told me that our plan was to lay in bed all day watching Downton Abbey!!

We’ve never had a TV in our bedroom. It’s always been in the living room. And so if we’re sick or tired we have to go lay on the couch which is stiffer and doesn’t accommodate…your legs. A couch just isn’t a bed. We got rid of our cable, so we just use the TVs as bigger computer screens– with an HDMI cable, you hook it up to the TV, and watch Netflix. I WAS SO HAPPY WE WEREN’T LEAVING THE HOUSE AND WALKING THROUGH WINERIES! He knew it was all I’d want to do and tricked me. Breakfast in bed, AND A TV IN THE BEDROOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And 2.) he also brought me a surprise box from Blue Mercury, with my favorite Trish McEvoy candles and this Laura Mercier honey-bath bubble stuff because I take a bath EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT— EVERY NIGHT– I do not go to sleep without a bath, it is part of my nightly, 7-nights-a-week routine. But I never use anything fancy I just sit there and relax and decompress before sleeping.

So he said he talked to the salesperson and that this stuff literally puts people to sleep haha, he was like ….”the smell of what’s in it, if you basically breathe it you fall asleep.” And look at the little honey comb to drip it into the bath!!!!! Stop I can’t. So Alex’s plan was for me to eat breakfast in bed, watch Downton all day in bed (we are both obsessed with it), then he’d made a dinner reservation for us to eat fresh seafood at Black Salt market, and then come home and take a nice long bath with my new stuff, and fall the fuck asleep. And it’s exactly what we did. It was my perfect day.

We were HERE all day, facing the TV:

And got up only to snack on YELLOW WATERMELON that he’d gotten at Smucker Farms (don’t have words) and more peaches in their cute lil brown bag.

And then I put on this outfit:

Those Iro leather shorts (from Style Etoile- the only place to find Iro in DC) were the best purchase ever and every time Fall comes around I’m so insanely excited to wear them with everything because that’s what you do with leather shorts- wear them with EVERYTHING. I’m SUPER in to emerald green and snakeskin/animal prints this Fall, a post I’ll be writing later.

And then Alex and I headed out for our mussels, since, as I’ve mentioned, all I ever want to eat are mussels.

It reminded me of this black-and-green outfit I wore last Fall.

With versatile staples like a green suede mini skirt, black tuxedo vest, black leather shorts, and green blouse, you can remix the pieces on end. I’ll be wearing some version of these black and green pieces forever.

I like the chunky black and silver “X” earrings I wore with the outfit on Saturday night, that I got in New Orleans for 3 bucks at a store called Funky Monkey, and the silver chain purse I’ve had four 4 years that I got from Zara on sale for 20 dollars.

In my version of this outfit last fall, all the accents were gold– the gold cut-out cuff and gold/green pendant necklace.

We went to bed right after dinner. Sunday morning I had a peach and then went to Pilates class, then came back and Alex had made avocado + arugula+ egg breakfast on the bread from Smucker Farms, using Smucker Farms happy eggs. With yellow watermelon!

So yummy. hahahahhaha he just made me edit this because he thinks it makes him sound like a pussy hahahahaha “here’s your arugula eggs and neon watermelon my darling!” The thing is just that…. he makes the food for both of us. He doesn’t like, wait ’till the door opens and rush up to me with our pumpkin-goat-cheese ravioli and a candle every night. He just handles the food in our 2-person family. He is a guy who knows how to slice a peach and make delicious pork. It’s funny because even I, based on our culture I guess?, feel like people think it’s effeminate for a guy to cook but then you look at other cultures, like Italians and the Spanish, where a guy who knows how to throw salads together and stand in the kitchen barefoot making meals is SEXY and masculine and hot. In my family growing up, my dad was always our cook. He knew how to make everything, and he DID make everything, and he’d arrange strawberries on our pancakes and make us these crazy egg omelets on the weekends and spend 10 hours on Saturdays making his famous “meat-and-potatoes” stew, where he’d go out and get all the ingredients and then slice the potatoes and carrots and stew this amazing red-wine sauce, and put mozzarella and olives into these beautiful floral-looking anti-pasto arrangements. He took pride in his arrangement of things. And it’s rare for a head chef in a restaurant to be a woman. Almost every restaurant I’ve ever gone to, the head chef is a man. But yet when it comes down to relationships, I feel like people think a guy is less of a man if he’s whipping up poached eggs in the kitchen because though men cook in restaurants, women cook in families.  Interesting dynamic there. But I think the guy who cooks is hottttt. Sprinkle a little oregano on that shit, grill a perfect steak, throw some arugula on your perfectly over-medium eggs? Fuck yeah, that’s my kind of guy. Who would think that’s unmanly? I don’t know but people do.

I’m trying to go to Pilates more and eat healthier. I’ve always loved Pilates. That and ballet will get you some bomb legs/abs, and I love ballet so much but the problem is I get soooo bored even though it’s the best workout EVER. I still never enjoy exerting myself, obviously I’d rather be blogging on my ass or watching Downton Abbey than straining my neck to pump my arms for the hundreds, buttt it goes faster/is less slow than ballet so it’s easier for me to stick to it. I’m not really like an INTENSE CARDIO PUMP IT UP type of girl..those classes are way too hard/high-impact for me and I have fibromyalgia so my muscles do weird things and I always feel really sick after I work out in a class where they make you like, run around and do suicides and sprints and jumping jacks. It’s just not for me. Pilates is something that feels so amazing on my body, and works my arms/legs/butt/abs but without like…hurting me. It just feels gentle and restoring, not like cardio kickboxing with Billy Blane. It’s also one of the only things I’ve ever done where within 2 weeks I’ve noticed results– I took a few when I was in college, which was the first time I ever tried it, and noticed ab definition after 2 classes. I’ve also read that Pilates is like……magical. Like people who do it don’t get sick as often. Something about how there was some bad flu in 1920 and the guy who invented Pilates had all his people in training and they all didn’t get it hahaha something like that. Whatever I believe it.

HAHAH yeah I just looked it up, see:

Joseph Pilates grew up in Germany between the two world wars. A sickly, skinny child and very self-conscious about it, he became intrigued with the Greek ideal of balance in body and mind — that a beautiful body is flexible as well as strong. He taught himself physiology and anatomy. And eventually he became an acrobat. Touring with the circus when World War I broke out, he was interned in England as an enemy alien and Pilates kept everyone on his cellblock breathing and moving their limbs. The health conditions in the internment camps were not great, but Pilates insisted that everyone in his cell block participate in daily exercise routines to help maintain both their physical and mental well-being. For the bedridden, he created his first piece of equipment, the “bednasium,” converting an iron hospital bed into something resembling a four-poster bed with a spring and a foot loop attached to the frame, turning them into equipment that provided resistance exercise (those Pilates reformer machines we see today). Patients not only slept in them; they exercised in them. Legend has it that during the great flu epidemic of 1918, not a single one of the soldiers under his care died and lived well beyond the war.

I am so all about Pilates. I trust a German man motivated by his own sickliness.

That’s all for this weekend. May you never, ever, open a 50 Shades of Grey book. God speed.

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Tha Weekend

That was mostly my weekend in outfit photos. I love when the weekend comes. It’s when I REALLY get to express myself in clothing, because the rest of the week I’m in pencil skirts and blouses (NOT. FUCKING. ME). I can’t wear two-tone wedge booties, bright lipstick, breton stripes, NEON, and collar cuffs while at my 9 to 5 government job. Kind of reminds me of how life was in middle and highschool, when I wore a uniform to my all-girls Catholic school, of white polo + blackwatch plaid kilt. And then got to have so so much fun on the weekends dressing myself for errands, dinners, hanging out with friends, shopping etc. Not much is different these days.

This weekend, was, again, one of those weekends for the record books. It’s so easy to enjoy life in summer. How can any other season COMPETE. How can anything, even the hum and buzz and excitement of the holidays, compete with warm breezes, outdoor meals, outdoor activities, fizzy drinks in colorful tumblers with big ice cubes, fresh farmer’s market fruit and just general water-based produce (juicy watermelon, blood red tomatoes, crisp lettuce MMMMMM), the spontaneity that necessarily comes with warm weather……walking out your front door and almost LITERALLY seeing where the wind takes you…a walk around the block, a stroll to the nearby park, down the street to get iced coffee and wander into storefronts for some AC, to your friend’s rooftop pool…it’s so easy to just get so much JOY out of life in the summer.

When do you ever do ANYTHING spontaneous in the winter???? When do you walk out your front door and like, decide to jaunt down to the corner store for a carton of homemade salted caramel ice cream, or just lazily walk around. YOU DON’T. BECAUSE THE SECOND YOU WALK OUT YOUR FRONT DOOR, YOU ARE FUCKING MISERABLE and literally your only goal in life is to get somewhere, ANYWHERE, than outdoors. Everything about the winter is about being outside for the shortest amount of time possible. Like when you’re going out to dinner with friends, or on a date, and you’re in a dress, and you’re shivering and squealing for the full ten feet from the front door to the car which feels like one thousand feet, and then you get in and you’re hyperventilating and shivering and just BEGGING the heat to start fast enough, and you’re cursing everything and all you want is fleece-lined pajamas and a blanket. That shit is DEPRESSING.

And you’re paler, uglier, less in shape, getting less melatonin, are less happy. Summer = happiness wherever you are. Winter, by definition, makes you want to stay inside in the dark and like, watch movies and gain 10 pounds.  You walk out the front door and your body does the thinking– it’s like– PLEASE, DEAR GOD, RUN, RUN TO A CAR, RUN BACK INSIDE, GO ANYWHERE BUT THIS MISERABLE FREEZING HELL. How does anyone ever tolerate the winter? How? If you like winter, I judge you. Because you need to get your head checked. One day I am moving to California, where summer is eternal, and i will be free of the murderess winter for the rest of my years on earth and will forever question the sanity of all humans who don’t do the same. THERE IS NOTHING. BETTER. THAN. SUMMER. NOTHING. NOTHING ON EARTH. SUMMER IS MY REASON FOR LIVING.

That being said, beCAUSE summer is so natural; so easy; lends itself so beautifully to the art of lazy wandering–which is perfectly wonderful and beautiful in its own right– because of that, I’ve come to realize that summer DEMANDS some initiative. Because it takes no trying at all to pass an entire summer doing nothing but sitting in the sun reading and taking lazy 5 hour walks through our neighborhood. Again, it’s not that there is anything wrong with that per SE, but I love doing things. I made it a goal of mine, on New Years Eve of this year, to do more. I simply wanted to DO MORE STUFF in my city. Get out there, try all those restaurants and coffee shops and dessert spots I hear about on twitter that my friends rave about, try new types of food (Ethiopian), do new activities that I never do, just literally get OFF my lazy summer butt and make a plan and get across town to that restaurant on H street, or down the road in Columbia Heights, or even to little spots in Alexandria or Bethesda, and just…try them all. Take day trips to nearby hiking trails or wineries, or historic sites like Monticello, or museums I haven’t hit up, or pop-up shops, or go to comedy shows, or photographic exhibits, or art galleries, try more food trucks, etc.

To that end, this weekend included: a make-up workshop, a PLAY at the roundhouse theater in Bethesda, and a full afternoon of renting bikes and biking on the Crescent trail from Georgetown to Bethesda and back! WHAT?! MAKE-UP WORKSHOP, PLAY, AND BIKE RENTING?! Let me tell you how that differs from a usual weekend. A usual weekend is………………………………….food, drinks, sun, pool, friends. This weekend involved FRIENDS FOOD AND SUN OBVIOUSLY, but actually involved FUN, DIFFERENT, ACTIVITIES. Things outside the box! Lessons! Culture! Sport! And, crossing off TWO places from our “Ultimate DC List” (the list of places to visit/things to do in DC while we’re here, before we move to LA and never come back).

It was fantastic. Now I will run down.

Friday evening, Alex and I met up with my friend Laura and her bf for sangria and tapas at Estadio. (Check one thing off the list!).

She so pretttaaayyy.

Quick review of Estadio: uhhhhhhh don’t have the words. Just don’t have the words. My new joint. All I ever want is to spend every Friday night at a cozy corner table at Estadio eating the best cheeses and Spanish specialties (Tortilla and patatas bravas! reminds me so much of Barcelona). More importantly: best white sangria I’ve ever had.

Then we walked down the road to have beers at Standard Biergarten, which SHOCKINGLY, I’d never been to. (Check two off the list!).

Then: bedtime.

(see me right there in the striped top and jean shorts putting on my eye shadow?! Yeahh bitch.)

Saturday I woke up bright and early for a 3 hour make-up workshop with two of my besties! It was taught by a friend of mine that I got to know through the blogger scene here in DC, who is a professional make-up artist for Mac and has her own business giving lessons and doing applications. She came to my house in February for a photoshoot that was being held here–a local vintage clothing business did their Valentines day shoot in my apartment–and she did the make-up for the models and I was SALIVATING the whole time, because of how unfathomably hot she made everyone look. I was like..”life goal: make enough money to have Ana do my makeup every day of my life forever.” Then…..one day 5 months later, I saw something on facebook about how she was partnering up with the vintage clothing business to start doing make-up workshops! –”How to Achieve a Flawless Face.” –

It was the basics, like….how to do eyeshadow and blending, a simple cat eye, bronzer and blush contouring, how to use concealer, etc. A.k.a. everything I don’t know. My friends from home are the same way…none of us know SHIT about make-up. Of all of us I probably knew the most which is comical because I know nothing. None of us are or were those girls that can do like, smokey eyes with 3 shades of smokey shadow, PROBABLY because we spent 10 years in all girls school where you looked like a butch nun every day and it was fine, because the only people who saw you were the butch nuns. And other girls. So,  I signed up immediately and sent the info to my friends because I knew they’d be so game for sitting at a table together on a Saturday morning trying to learn how to apply liquid eyeliner. I knew it would just be a really fun and USEFUL experience, and that there would be a lot of joking and laughing. I saw exactly how it would unfold before it ever unfolded: Beautiful, chic, PERFECTLY made-up Ana, sweetly and patiently moving through her lessons; me and Ellie and Cait watching with sheer panic; making fun of ourselves as we tried to replicate what she was doing on our own selves, desperately trying to mimic her expert moves with the utmost concentration and then fucking it all to hell when our self-inflicted cat-eye made us look like a tranny instead of the way the model looked; and thusly turning into 3 year olds with puppy voices asking Ana to come help us… “wait…Ana…I don’t know what shade to use, wait, HOW DO YOU DO THAT FLICK with the brush, wait….why does my concealer make me look like a fugly ghost. Fml.”

It was exactly that. Except that we surprised ourselves with what we were able to do and how much we learned about “how to get a flawless face” hah!, and it was SO MUCH FUN. Ana is a BOSS! It was held at the La Petite Marmoset showroom so we were surrounded by pretty vintage clothes too : ).

This was after the work-shop, in full ‘flawless face’ effect. I mean that was literally the name of the workshop. Obviously all week before and after, me and my friends were like “COUNTDOWN– 48 HOURS UNTIL WE ACHIEVE A FLAWLESS FACE” and “shit your face is looking really flawless right now.”

When it was over, the 3 of us and my boyfriend went to Sundevich for the bombest freshest sandwiches in all of DC. I got the Capri– tomato, basil, mozzarella and housemade pesto– OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG. GET THAT SHIT. IF YOU LIVE IN DC, PLEASE, go to Sundevich every day because otherwise you are just acting a fool. It is in my top 5 of favorite places in this city right now.

Then the boy departed and the girls stopped at Peregrine for an iced coffee and chocolate chip cookie for me, a little browsing at Miss Pixies next door, and then to Violet (the best/cutest boutique ever). Then, after a little downtime (aka folding laundry), Alex and I went to a PLAY in Bethesda!!

It was called Double Indemnity and was based off of a film noir movie from like the ’40′s. I have a secret to tell all of you: The RoundHouse Theater in Bethesda has TEN DOLLAR tickets for anyone under 30. As soon as Alex told me that (he surprised me with the play tickets and the idea), I said “oh, well that MUST be because they are trying to encourage a younger hipper audience in.” And WHEN WE WALKED IN, WE LAUGHED, OUT LOUD, BECAUSE EVERY. SINGLE. HUMAN. THERE. WAS 70. OR. OVER. It was literally ALL retired couples. Because WHAT ELSE do rich retired couples in Bethesda do but…………….go to a play on Saturday night. Retired couples– so classic. I am NOT kidding you. Alex and I were the only people without white or silver hair, or no hair at all. It was classic. But the thing is…it was SO fun. It was so so so fun, the play was amazing, the lead was amazing, we felt so good doing something just…more cultured than going to a bar, and it’s just FUN to get dressed up and go out with your boyfriend to a theater house to see a play on a warm summer night. I wore this Wren dress I got on mega-sale at Style Etoile for my birthday– they have the BEST sales. I am madly, madly, madly, madly in love with it.

It is so well made. The slouches and wrinkles hit in all the right places to just crazy flatter your body, and it’s just such a sexy fit, with the sleeves but the short length and tiny little modern thigh slit. Perfect summer date dress with funky booties and some silver jewelry.

After the play we met up with some friends for late night sushi at Raku in Dupont, a quick stop into a hookah bar on 18th, and then headed to bed.

Sunday, we woke up, and had brunch at Matchbook, which normally we’ve only ever eaten dinner/lunch at, but did a little research and the brunch sounded AMAZING.

I will let these HOUSE MADE, MOTHER FUCKING CINNAMON ROLLS WITH CREAM CHEESE FROSTING SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES.

After that, we drove straight to Fletcher’s Boat House in Palisades and rented beach cruiser bikes for $7 dollars an hour!!!! And they were cute, vintage, turquoise and powder blue beach cruisers!! And it felt like SUMMER nights.

(fugliest picture everrrrr but only one that shows the cute bike).

It was the best idea E.V.E.R. (Alex’s) and I probably could write 4000000 pages on this blog about how wonderfully refreshing and exhilarating and fun it was. Because it felt like VACATION. There is a distinct feeling that you feel when you’re on vacation. And distinct smells and senses and little experiences that come with it. The smell of the nearby water…. something that feels briny and salty that kind of sticks on your skin, the scenery, and just that FEELING, like when you take a random Wednesday off from school when you were younger, or from work for no reason, you aren’t sick, you feel kind of like you’re getting away with something life changing and momentous and you go do fun things and every little detail of the day feels more special than it would without the promise that a cheated day of vacation carries with it, and you feel like you could spend the rest of your LIFE in that exact moment if it just kept on going indefinitely forever, and if, without you giving it to permission to, your brain betrays you and wanders to what your office looks like or what it would feel like if you were sitting in geometry class or the feeling of your alarm cock going off for work, you  literally have a visceral reaction to it because the present moment of freedom is so perfect– that FEELING.

The whole experience and afternoon was WROUGHT with that feeling. Me, Alex, my best friend since the age of 3, and our friend Bernardo, just……..cruised in the wind and sun for 3 hours. Beeping our little bike bells for no reason, chatting, racing, exploring, making inside jokes about the various characters on the trail, and just……………losing ourselves in the moment. Nowhere to be, no stopping point, just riding. There really is something distinctly and simply exhilarating about riding a BEACH CRUISER– not a fancy bike. These bikes were seriously just brightly colored cruising bikes from the 1950′s with no frills. That alone made it feel like vacation. And the trail was SO pretty, so so so so so so pretty, so interesting, so many different little spots with different charms, from industrial bridges, to brick bridges, to campfire spots, to streams, to heavily wooded areas, to sunny clearings.

The bikes gave you that perfect breezy speed- like we saw a bunch of people walking the trail and it looked so pedestrian (no pun intended) and muggy and miserable, to be on foot, as we passed by them with the breeze on our faces and our little two-wheel machines speeding us along to new scenery. It felt so freeeeeee to be on the bike. And I’m not a biker. I don’t bike to work or go biking, ever. It was exercise, and at points on the trail we had to work hard, but it was mostly just freeing and calming and lovely. It was EXACTLY like that scene in Wedding Crashers. Where the “summertime” Mungo Jerrry song is playing. Probably about AS quintessential “summer” as a human could get. And it was just, incredible, that this beautiful beautiful beautiful escape is right in the dead middle this city of ours. I mean I’ve DONE the crescent trail before, but when I was younger, and only a tiny portion of it in Bethesda. We rode all the way to Bethesda and then back down to Georgetown, where we parked the bikes and got snacks and took this lovely photo  : )

After 3.5 hours of biking, we stopped by Smucker Farms (indoor farmer’s market, essentially) on 14th and Yes Organic Market across the street (so awesome to live so close to those two), and got all the fixings for the perfect summer salad.

And some farm fresh organic chocolate milk!! Obvs.

Our salad ended up looking like this: (organic lettuce + tomatoes + avocado + baby carrots + edamame + red onion + cucumber with nothing but lemon juice and olive oil for dressing + toasted pine nuts):

We took it to the AMAZING roof of our apartment building and invited my dad over and had an amazing little summer dinner up there. The boys had chicken apple sausage with their salads too.

Adding the toasted pine nuts to the mix:

Pouring the bubbly:

The insane view up there:

Toasting some more:

I can’t believe how beautiful the view of Meridian Hill Park and the rest of DC is from our building. On Sundays at the park, there is a drum circle, so we could hear the pounding of the drums while we ate and it was super cool.

Look at that beautiful shot of DC at night! We see the Washington Monument and Capitol up there, and the National Cathedral and Catholic University Basilica, and it all really never gets old.

And then we had dessert. There PROBABLY are few things better than fresh chocolate milk from a nearby farm, and watermelon. Seee ya, summer.

P.S. I love my colorful summery tye-dye bowls from Urban Outfitters, they were 3 dollars each and are so adorbs for summer.

It was a MEMORABLE weekend and now all we ever want to do are MORE MORE MORE MORE activities, more plays, more bike rentals, more excursions, more of it all. You gotta live.

And I’m pretty sure we’re bike people now.

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My 26th Birthday Party Plans– A Summer Soiree

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With my 26th birthday about two weeks away (ahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!) I had to start thinking about the plans. I knew I’d want to have people over to our place because I love being a hostess and I am madly in love with our current rental. Not that our last rental was a hell hole, but we had carpet and Venetian blinds so yeah, it was a hell hole. And also you’d get a noise complaint if you turned the TV on. Like literally if you played the Ellen talk-show too loud, management would be knocking at the door. The neighbors were freaks and the walls were paper thin. At our new place, we’ve had three RAGING parties so far, like BLASTING Drake until 3 am and narry a single neighbor has said a word. Because our walls are not made of computer paper and the neighbors like to rage too. Just kidding there are lots of sweet families and rando loners but they DGAF about people who enjoy listening to music and engaging in the pleasures that life has to offer.

Anyways, we get a hilarious, generic, newsletter from the management each month that is three pages of random yet awkwardly interesting/helpful tidbits about life. Suggestions, quotes, recipes for healthful little snacks, homemade gift ideas for your significant other, inspiring quotes, etc.—just tiny things related to the season, weather, what have you. Like “Did you know daffodils grow better in the kitchen? The oils of the food penetrate the stem and encourage growth. Leave yours on the windowsill of your kitchen for happy daffodils.” {I’m improvising here, none of that was true.} And you’re like “wow, thank you generic renter’s newsletter, I will store that daffodil-fact in my back pocket.” Or like “John Armstrong once said, a man is worth a thousand words. Don’t let your thousand words go waste—write your love a small poem today. They’ll appreciate the effort.” And you’re scratching your head like, why is this awkward newsletter that no-one reads making me want to plant daffodils and write poems to Alex, and have an afternoon snack of pumpkin sautéed with butter and cinnamon? It doesn’t make sense. NO ONE READS THE SEASONAL NEWSLETTER THAT THEY PLACE IN YOUR MAILBOX WITHOUT YOU ASKING. But I do. Cover to cover. I have an awkward obsession with lifestyle facts, no matter the source, and no matter how many other places I’ve heard those same facts. Like if the AARP sends me a postcard with the suggestion of an afternoon snack of apples, peanut butter and chocolate milk, because some amino acid in the chocolate combines with the pectin in the apple and the lipids in the peanut-butter to lower your cholesterol and give you energy, I AM ALL OVER IT. Or if the brochure from your local veterinary hospital is like “Daylight savings time is around the corner– prepare for the loss of sleep by setting your alarm clock ten minutes earlier each day and doing a sun salutation with your dog to awaken your muscles,” I EAT THAT SHIT UP. You either know what I’m talking about or you don’t. I am just a consumer of lifestyle suggestions.

Well guess what friends. YOU NEVER KNOW where inspiration is going to come from, whether it be AARP’s annual postcard who you don’t understand why you get mail from because you are 25 and not retired, or the veterinary hospital who you don’t understand why you get mail from because you don’t have any pets. Because I sat down two nights ago, reading through the February edition of our rental newsletter, and it was all about wintry things. And one of the tidbits was “Spring is still a month away. To fend off winter blues, have a dinner with nostalgic summer favorites. Hot dogs, baked beans, and potato salad. Serve lemonade.”

And I thought to myself: WHY YES. I LOVE HOT DOGS. I LOVE BAKED BEANS. I LOVE LEMONADE. I LOVE SUMMER. And then it hit me: HAVE A SUMMER PARTY!! AN INDOOR SUMMER PICNIC!

Then the ideas began swirling in my head.

-A summer party

-With a red checkered table cloth

-With wild flowers in rustic tin cans

-With colorful cups and striped straws

-With hot dogs. And potato salad. And baked beans. And potato chips.

-With caramel corn served in tiny gingham party bags

-With spiked lemonade and iced tea as the alcoholic beverage

-With a retro ice bucket to house the varieties of summery indie ales

-With citrus and cucumber water to sober people up between alcoholic beverages

-With coke floats and brownie sundaes as the dessert!!!!!!!!!!

So I signed into e-vite and sent the following message to the 11 friends that I have. Counting some of their boyfriends and some of my boyfriend’s friends who are now my friends.

Message from Host

We all know that Alina has a severe, crushing case of Seasonal Affected Depression. If it’s not 75 degrees, sunny, and in the state of California, she hates life/wants to die. Therefore….in order to make her the happiest she can be on her 26th birthday, we are going to re-create her favorite season with a summery indoor picnic! {Writing in third person is absurd, this is Alina typing.}

We are talking: hot dogs, baked beans, potato salad, coke floats, and brownie sundaes. To drink: spike lemonade, iced tea and punch as well as delicious varieties of beer.

We’ll be screening Wet Hot American Summer {her favorite movie} with a giant projector, like a drive-in movie theater!!!

Decor will include white daisies in tin cans, red checkered tablecloths, and colorful straws.

GET READY TO IGNORE THE FREEZING WEATHER AND PRETEND IT’S SUMMER OUT!!! WEAR YOUR SUMMER BEST!

Please bring your significant others!!

__________________________________________________________________

That was the invite. With this graphic:

Some of the ideas I have for the concept are original, but mostly it’s piecing together individual ideas I’ve come across on various of my favorite blogs.

For instance I stumbled upon this adorable and dirt cheap tutorial for colorful polka-dot stamped cups on Oh Happy Day blog just two days before the idea for the summer party came about. I thought how cute those cups would be as part of the summer picnic theme. You simply get plain, white cups and stamp them using a circle stamp and some colorful stamp pads of your choosing. With lemonade and a colorful striped straw? Seeeee you at the party, cups.

Drinks to include pink lemonade, lemonade, and mint julep iced tea.

Images via {1, 2, 3}.

Individual servings of homemade caramel corn, via Cupcakes and Cashmere.

Baked Beans {not sure of the original source…the lidded jars, twine, and mini-spoons are insanely cute details but obviously way too much effort for my own birthday party.}

Potato chips {source unknown}

Potato salad {via}

Beer Bucket with chalkboard menu labeling the different types {via The Knot}

Strawberry and Cucumber Water, individual servings {via}

Or, just plain old dispensers of water with citrus and cucumber {via}

Coke floats {google images, source unknown}

So that’s the plan for the party!

Also, when my boyfriend came home and I told him I’d gotten the idea for a summer birthday party from the rental newsletter that he doesn’t read and saves for me, he thought of the idea of our friend’s projector to show Wet Hot American Summer like a drive-in movie theater!!! Our friend has this like, $2,000 dollar LCD projector that he uses for football games and it’s super compact and portable and all you need is a white wall to project it. WELLLLL we have a perfectly huge, white wall behind our couch (we’d simply take down the photograph we have hanging there), and Wet Hot American summer isn’t only one of my favorite movies, IT’S ABOUT SUMMER.

So that’s happening.

I’m excited. It’s perfect. I can’t wait.

And also the food will be really cheap and easy to make. Cans of baked beans? See ya. Mini franks rolled up in crescent rolls? Easy. Caramel Corn? {I’m OBVIOUSLY BUYING IT AND NOT actually melting the brown sugar and butter and drizzling it over popcorn. #please. Like I have the time for that} #joke. POTATO CHIPS? hahahah hilarious. Coke and ice cream? 10 dollars. Brownies? One box. Wildflowers? 2-dollar bunches from Trader Joes and Harrist Teeter. The tin cans for the flowers? Oh don’t worry about it– WE’LL JUST USE THE BUSH’S BAKED BEAN CANS FOR THE VASES. Cucumber water? Water + 30-cent cucumber.  Itttttt’s a joke how easy and fun this summer party will be. I hope everyone gets schwasted and makes hilarious memories of Alina’s 26th Birthday.

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LA DAY TWO– coming right up

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Be Right Back/LA Day One

The best Los Feliz side street

Yesterday in LA, we:

  • Woke up at 6 am after going to bed at 2
  • Drove straight to West Hollywood {it was the most gorgeous day IN THE ENTIRE WORLD EVER}and had breakfast outside at Urth. I got a croissant and latte (tsk tsk, but all rules go OUT THE WINDOW on vacation because life is short and it’s an even shorter vacation), boyfriend got croissant with brie and raspberry jam and a latte
  • Drove 2 feet around the corner to Andy Lecompte salon where I got my hair done for free. Entirely free. Zero dollars. Free. (that story to come later).  In a nutshell, Denis told me he wanted to color my hair as complimentary Valentine’s Day gift to me for always being so supportive of his work!! His words. I had a panic attack and was like AYFKMRN— it’s easy to be supportive of your work, YOU ARE A GENIUS AND THE MOST AMAZING PERSON EVER. How insanely sweet is that??!!! He is the nicest person in the WORLD. I could not believe it. But there’s still a little more to the story which I’ll tell ya later. Was there from 9 – 1 (!!)– I could write a whole blogpost on spending four hours in the Andy LeCompte salon and I will. It’s probably my favorite place on earth. Like I want to just hang out there every day. It’s like a giant party no matter what time of day it is. The best music ever, the most artistic and creative types all milling about using their skill and making people hotter with cooler and prettier and edgier hair cuts and color, totally tatted out (literally like I feel like a massive loser that my skin is NOT covered in  tats), surviving on coffee that is literally like rocket fuel because they were out till 5 am the night before (they have a literal like…coffee bar in the back of the salon where they serve up the most insane iced coffees you’ve ever seen and everyone just drinks them all day and it’s LITERALLY rocket fuel, like total crack- so good) and just hang out looking/being cool in their summery, chill, skater clothes. All the bro stylists are in like…RVCA tanks with long hair and beanies and lace-up boots– CLASSIC. It’s literally ALWAYS a party in there. Just such a fun and energetic vibe with really cool people and I literally want to live there- no biggie. When I move here I am going to be Denis’ apprentice. Like..what if I actually did that. I’m going to. I literally wouldn’t be surprised if you talked to me in 3 years and my day-job was learning how to give people beachy Gisele hair at the hands of my brazilian male model coloristDenis. It’s happening.
  • While I was in the salon, Alex drove through the hills- HE’D NEVER BEEN TO CALIFORNIA so I mean…he just wanted to DRIVE.
  • Pick me up at 1 and we drove back through the hills to Runyon Canyon- more on that to come.
  • Drove all over Mullholland, and then down through Beverly Hills- like THE Beverly Hills
  • Drove to Los Feliz for a drink from Alcove and a little shopping
  • Had happy hour drinks and apps at my favorite restaurant in LA, Figaro– always the best vibe, the best people watching, and the best next-to-you seating company. We sit outside on the sidewalk tables and I’ve never NOT made cool friends from the people sitting next. This time it was George, a regular, who orders the BIGGEST lattes iN THE WORLD- apparently they put them in a special cup for him, and they’re non fat and decaf, which he calls “the why-bother.” We talked about the awkwardly tall giant of a man who kept walking by us on the sidewalk which George used as an opportunity to make fun of Alex for being a freak since he’s also a yetti, a new drug in Russia called croc-a-dill that like..rots your skin off or some shit (lovely dinner table chat!), and George called Alex a hall monitor because he tried to tell me I should have dinner before dessert when I wanted to order the opposite. ALL joking. Like basically the two of us were flirting with George for an hour straight. We got in the car, and all we talked about for one hour was how amazing George was. We made other friends but no one compared to G.
  • Thennnn we went to back to our hotel, got changed, and drove to Bottega Louis (oh my WORD do I NOT have the words to describe my love for this place), and then went across the street to a reallllllly cool Whiskey Bar called Seven Grand that had an old school boy’s club lodge feel to it, with plaid walls and deer’s heads and whiskey bottles everywhere.
  • Went to bed at 2, woke up at 7 (I always can’t sleep on vacation out of excitment), and now we are about to go have breakfast at Blu jam!
  • PEACE!!!!

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Our Almost-done but-still-in-the-works entryway, and other new things around the house, and a rant about the tragedy of losing a couch to your loser doorframe that’s too small for the couch to fit in, and loving GoodWood

IT’S FINALLY FURNISHED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All it took was one giant piece of amazing wall art, and a hallway runner. That’s it.  EXCEPT for a tiny little thin narrow console table that will go directly underneath the horse photo. Clearly that blank, bare wall space isn’t meant to just be chilling naked like that. I mean it’s basically going to have to be like 2 inches wide haha. I’m certain I can find something that will work for the space though, tiny it may be. Also, I’m really in to the peach colored roses in a vintage mint julep cup, because they contrast really nicely with the navy. Peach and navy is where it’s at. Also with the grey too.

  • Walls: Benjamin Moore Old Navy, like 10 bucks or something from any hardware store
  • Pendant paper lamp: Ikea Maskros, $49.99
  • Grey and white hallway rug (the cute motiff of which matches the pendant lamp perfectly!!!!! Obsessed}, Overstock.com, $109.99
  • Black and white Horse Print, blown the fuck up: $90.00, Etsy seller Apple and Oats
  • White frame for the print: Ikea Ribba, $24.99
  • Little white square table: TJ Maxx 3 years ago, stolen from my mother

We painted the walls and hung the pendant lamp pretty much the weekend we moved in, so it’s been 3 months of empty hallway, waiting to be filled with art and a rug. I knew from day one that I want to blow this very horse print up and hang it where it now lies.One day while on Etsy, this print happened to be on the homepage feed. I was in love before I even clicked, and then clicked to it and was OBSESSED, like beyond words. I could NOT get it out of my head. I almost ordered the 8 1/2 by 11 but knew it would look SICK blown up as big as the seller would blow it up. I favorited the print (an Esty term, you ‘favorite’ the things you’re lusting after with a little heart) and it’s been in my favorites for like 6 months till I could afford to blow it up. This past week, I convo-ed the seller and she could not have been more responsive and helpful and amazing. To blow it up to the size I wanted, which was specific to the Ikea frame, it was $90.00. I went according to the Ikea Ribba because the Ikea Ribba is a CLAAAAAAAAAAAASSIC frame in the design world for poor people. It’s like the Ikea lack table or the Ektorp couch– just Ikea legends. And that’s because the ribba is huge (at least the biggest size of it is) and framing is extreeeeeemley expensive. A piece of glass the size of the ribba I used for the print would be like $800. So I specifically told the seller I wanted the photo to fit the ribba. It had to be slightly bigger but that’s because the photo lab only prints specific sizes, so my dad helped me cut the photo down using an exacto knife to fit perfectly in the frame. God bless Ikea. I mean what would anyone do without it. Custom frame? LOLOLOL that’s hiLARIOUS guys, hilarious. I can’t EXPLAIN how in love I am with how it looks. It’s a SICK photograph. Just SO awesome, the contrast and detail. Obsessed.

Doesn’t it look awesome?!

With a cute little rustic console underneath? Done and done.

ALSO new in the home is this amazing, graphic, geometric, pink/orange/black pillow that I am IN LOVE WITH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It was $30.00 at Urban Outfitters {currently still online}. It lives in our TJ Maxx Director’s chair that my mom gave to us. It was begging for a colorful graphic pillow and was lame without one, so I’ve been browsing the ‘net for months looking for JUST THE RIGHT ONE and low and behold friends, THIS WAS IT. It’s currently my boyfriend’s favorite thing in our house. And that does not make him gay.

This slab of marble was $15.00 at my favorite store in DC, Goodwood. It’s real marble– it’s the heaviest thing IN THE WORLD. ever. I cannot pick it up. I don’t know why it was $15 but Goodwood sometimes has things at ABSURDLY low prices and I actually do know why: it’s because they just want to move them. They have such incredible turn over, they are always going on buying trips, and you can tell sometimes that they price things to move them. Like their business model is basically having AMAZING new things pretty much every three days, so they don’t want something to sit in the store for weeks at a time being un-bought. We got our wood, Mad Men-y nightstands for $100.00 total, for BOTH. Ridiculous.  Below, mine, with white+green hydrangeas in a mint julep cup, my design books (The Selby, Design Sponge, Domino), and a little brass swan I found on Etsy for $8.00 where I keep hair things and jewelry that I take off right before bed.My boyfriend’s, with fresh purple flowers I got today at Harris Teeter for $4.00 (they always have seasonal bunches 3 for 12.00), a $2.99 Ikea candle (obsessed with these– the Tindra, they’re 2.99 and look great and smell amazing, like vanilla cinammon sugar), a West Elm tray, and his Kindle.

So back to the marble tray: we first noticed it because it was sitting between the most amazing couch we’ve ever come across in our lives. It was rattan, it was MAGNIFICENT, it was uniquely shaped and masterfully constructed with gorgeous curved corners. It had brown curdory-ish upholstery, and a space between the two seating areas that the Goodwood people had styled using the marble tray and coffee table books.

It was, in my life, the most amazing piece of furniture I’ve ever seen, in terms of how VISUALLY cool it was with that space. My boyfriend and I kept imagining its functionality during a dinner party, with people sitting down and having a place to put their cheese and wine. We were going to use the marble tray as a cheese-and-wine platter and kept picturing our guests sitting down at the couch to use the built-in tray area. It was $350.00 and we HAD THE MONEY AND TRIED TO BUY IT, literally, Dan, the owner, came over and I was like “we’re buying it!” and he instantly goes “okay well, it’s very very wide and has no give because it’s a giant box of wood, so go home and measure.” And I was like, Dan, you practical dog you. Dan knows INSTANTLY what to consider because his enTIRE business is in buying and selling these pieces and he’s gone on a MILLION deliveries and knows exACLTY what specific parts of individual pieces of furniture are going to cause the issue. I was SO EXCITED to tell him that we were buying it so I beckoned Dan over (he knows me by face because I go in three times a week), and was like WE’RE BUYING IT! and he goes, “It’s really wide and the wood doesn’t give so it’s going to be very difficult if not impossible to get it into a small doorway, can you take your door off?” and I was like, “Alex can we take our door off” ( like I know) and Dan put a hold tag on the couch and said “I’ll throw in the tray for you guys, go home and measure,” SO SWEET, and so we go home, like soooooooo wary because we just know, that if Dan is skeptical about dimensions, it’s not looking good.

And so we roll home and do a SHIT ton of measuring, including attempting to roll our Ikea couch out the door, which we couldnt do no matter HOW many angles we tried, because the Ikea couch gets delivered packed down, so it’s muchhh bigger when it’s no longer packed, and the problem was that the couch at Goodwood was four inches longer and wider and taller than our Ikea. So over thirty minutes, we GRAVELY had to accept our somber reality. There was not a chance in HELL that the couch would fit. Not one.

Alex and I were LITERALLY distraught. Like DiSTRAUGHT. We kept looking at each other going “this isn’t happening is it?” THIS IS NOT REAL.” I was like “Alex, WE HAVE TO JUST MAKE IT FIT. DAN CAN MAKE IT FIT. DAN CAN DO IT. DAN CAN MAKE THIS COUCH FIT” with an increasingly desperate and hysterical tone. And then we’d both stare silently off into space for five minutes and go…”Dan can’t do it. No one can. It’s over. Our lives are over. This couch cannot fit.” And then I’d get a burst of hopeful energy and be like “BUT WHAT ABOUT THE DOOR ALEX! WE HAVEN’T TRIED TO TAKE THE DOOR OFF!”, knowing that the door would give us like, 2 more centimeters of space, not 4 inches. For the next 5 hours all we talked about was how badly we wanted to end our own lives. Alex said he wanted to drink a bottle of Jack Daniels and take the marble slab to a park and pay a homeless person $15.00 to hit him across the head with it. I told him I planned to sleep on the floor in the place of where the couch would have gone. That at 3 am that night, he would find me curled up, on the floor, where the couch was supposed to go.

We had to drive back to the store, and when we got there, Dan was on another delivery. We literally felt betrayed, as though Dan cares about our lives or inability to fit a couch into our house. We were SO DEPRESSED and our lives were over, and Dan was just out, with another city-couple, on another city-delivery, helping them move in a couch that probably did fit into their stupid city-apartment. Dan like, does not care whether we were going to buy the couch for $350 or not because he is so anti sales person. He is just the coolest fucking guy in the world who buys amazing shit and runs the coolest business and is so realistic and legit. I love Dan. Dan couldn’t know less who I am except he knows my face as someone who goes there a lot. He’s not trying to sell you on anything. When we were checking out the couch all he said was, “do you know the dimensions of your doorway, it’s a big piece. I’ll put it on hold and throw in the tray,” and then walks away into the night. He couldn’t be nicer. He is just SO COOL. He’s exactly like how you would picture him. Tall and german or something (I probably made up the German part but he seems influenced by something not American). Dan and Anna are Washington legends. They have the coolest house I’ve ever seen, except not seen, just stalked from an Apartment Therapy house tour. I am obsessed with them. I go in every weekend and smile all big and am like “HEY DAN AND ANNA, WHAT’S NEW!!!” The Store looks great!!! HOW ‘BOUT THESE NEW PIECES YOU BROUGHT IN!” And they’re like “hey” and then go back to being cool. I literally might as well go in wearing pigtails and carrying blueberry pie for them. Like I’m such a tool compared to them. I want to be the third member of their marriage. It’s fine. One time I emailed Dan about how I wanted these Mid Century Modern Chairs and a Mexican blanket, and was like so cheerful and descriptive and friendly and it was like 5 paragraphs long and he wrote back  “we have a mexican blanket. It’s $50.00 at the front of the store.” AMAZING. Marry me Dan and Anna.

So anyways we were upset because we obviously wanted to tell Dan OURSELVES that he was right, and the couch didn’t fit, and our lives were over. So we tried to convey to the store people who were working, to PLEASE tell Dan how devastated we were. We were like “Seriously, we are about to take our own lives, can you please tell Dan HOW sad we are, please tell him,” as though Dan gave ONE SHIT. Seriously when we left the store and Dan came back from his other cool delivery, the people were probably like “um this crazy couple wanted us to tell you that they were suicidal that they couldn’t fit the couch?” And dan’s answer was literally probably: “who?” or “what couch.” So obviously after that we had to get the tray. The tray that Dan was going to ‘throw in’ for us with the couch. Ugh, so cool. But since we didn’t GET THE COUCH we just bought it for $15. Sad day.

So now it’s here. With pine cone candle holders and fresh purple flowers.

This is our living room right now: I ADORE our three city windows– see right there, where the blue bench is? That’s where the couch would have gone, and where whatever couch we DO get will go. And our bedroom, in case you missed it. It’s twice the size of what you’re seeing in the picture- the other half isn’t done yet.

Our home is being used as the set for a photoshoot on Saturday so I’m very very excited!!!! Though would be 10x as more excited if that stupid fucking couch had fit through our goddamn door. I mean REALLY. How badly can a DOOR FRAME fuck you over? I was ready to airlift the couch in from the outside windows. I wanted to hire a carpenter to saw it in half so it would fit through the door and then glue it back together once inside. ALL VERY PRACTICAL IDEAS.

‘s All for now. Its midnight. good night.

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An Outfit.

Rising Star Jeans; Pink Aztec Print shirt from South Moon Under; White studded thong sandals from Nordstrom Rack; Bakers Bag

Chilling with my ’93 red Honda Civic. That bad boy is from 1993. It’s twenty years old. And I LOVE IT. No car is more reliable and well-made and easy on the wallet. I hope it never stops working.

My style is very simple. Top, bottom, shoe, bag, ring/or necklace/or cuff. I have said this before but the style that draws my eye to it isn’t necessarily something I would wear. Like I really dig the SUUUUUPER bohemian look with tanks and vests and scarves and 25 bracelets on each wrist and shit, but when it comes to me dressing, I like to wear simple, casual (relatively speaking), comfortable things. It’s why I love American Apparel because it’s just…simple. You wear on of their ribbed tanks, any of their high waisted shorts, and there, you’re done. Their stuff is just so well-fitting and comfortable and simple and sexy, and retro. I don’t like wearing things that are fussy. I don’t like piling on necklaces or layering, period. I feel so restricted wearing layers– like throwing on a jean jacket over a vest over a tank with a maxi skirt and belt and scarf. I really like it when other people do, and pull it off. I think they look great. But I’d rather just wear shorts and a tank, period. Two items. With one very cool, interesting piece of jewelry that is simple. I have really interesting rings, cuffs, and necklaces from flea market and street shopping in New York, and I will wear one of those pieces with like….an oversized tee from Urban outfitters and jeans with holes in the knees. And I like making things interesting with shoes, for sure. It’s funny though that the more you shop, and grow older, the more you truly start to learn things about yourself when it comes to what you will ACTUALLY wear. I used to waste money buying these dresses and pieces that LOOKED great and were supercute, but I would never put them on when it came to judgement time because I just…don’t…like…fuss. At the end of the day, 10 out of 10 times, when I am getting dressed, I will wear shorts and some kind of tank/tee. You can swap out shorts for a miniskirt or dress or pair of jeans, but generally it’s shorts. I just love shorts. I wear them all summer. I don’t like skirts because you can’t like…do anything in them. I dont’ like that there is no material separating your legs…haha I want to be able to do the splits, dance, piggyback my boyfriend, or lay on the grass without worrying about someone seeing anything. Shorts are just fucking practical, plain and simple. So that being said, I like interesting shorts obbbviously. I like vintage Levis; high-waisted navy blue corduroy from a thrift store; printed silk shorts from boutiques; hot pink denim; black denim; shorts that look like skirts because they bell out. Anything. On top….crop tops, tee shirts, tanks. I don’t even really like blouses. I just want to be comfortable. I like comfort and simplicity with a bit of sex appeal– like a super second-skin tank from American Apparel or Theory or Urban or wherever. Oh and I LOVE rompers. I like wearing a romper with a blazer if I’m going out. Rompers are the best because they are shorts, but the top is built in, and they LOOK like a dress. Love me a good romper. Shoewise I love flat sandals with interesting details like studs or zippers or unexpected colors. I love Bensimon sneakers and converse and Soludos. I love me a good Jeffrey Campbell heel when the occasion calls for it. And I LOVE. BOOTS. Oh god boots of all kind are my weakness. I love wedge shoes especially too. Wedge sandals, not wedge boots. Wedges are the BEST because you can be cute and tall and sexy, but they are SO EASY TO WALK IN because of the wedge, and like I said, I don’t like being uncomfortable or fussy. Overall, I like my look to have a little bit of mess to it. Do not confuse fuss with mess. Mess just happens naturally…..mess is comfortable. Fuss is restrictive and annoying. Fuss is like, wearing too many layers and a shirt that isn’t soft or comfortable. Whether it’s a cropped top that is a little too big, denim that has holes in it, or messy hair, my style generally has a little bit of mess. I like looking human. I don’t like perfection. I don’t ever want to dress like Victoria Beckham or Camilla Belle. I don’t LIKE to look chic and polished. I want to look a little off. I am a crazy eclectic free spirit artistic outspoken hyperbolic person and it’s just how I am that something is always off…It’s not like I put on an outfit and am about to walk out the door and stop myself to make sure something is messy, it just happens naturally because it’s how/who I am. I LIKE wearing a pair of shorts I got at a thriftstore that don’t fit perfectly, or a shirt that looks faded because it literally came from the 1980′s, or a dress with a button missing…..or shoes that are beaten up because I’ve actually used/worn them, or my hair is messy, or my nails are bitten off because I have a horrible habit of murdering them, or my sweater is a slouchy grandpa sweater that makes me look like a homeless person, or my eye makeup is a little messy because it wore off. I just don’t like looking manufactured, ever. I like mess because it’s attractive to me. People whose hair is brushed perfectly and wear perfectly tailored separates are weird. People who are a little messy always speak to my soul. I like grunge. People who are looking at the pictures that started this post, of me in a bubblegum pink top, are probably laughing at the idea of me being grungy, but I play it up when I want to. My style is: Comfort, simplicity, and mess, with a little tinge of sexyness thrown in. For instance my outfit today. The top and jeans are both incredibly comfortable. It’s simple because it’s literally 3 things; a shirt, a pair of jeans, and sandals. The mess is that the jeans are ripped and the top is a little slouchy, and the sexyness is that my jeans were made for my ass so they fit/hug it perfectly. In other words they make my butt look good. They are as comfortable as pajama pants but highlight my behind. I have ALWAYS had a strong sense of personal style and been obsessed with fashion and been comfortable with doing things like wearing prescriptionless glasses because they are a cute accessory and make an outfit interesting, even though I don’t wear or need glasses–I did that shit when I was like 12–But I do dress for men. Like….I don’t wear ‘man-repelling’ things. I don’t like wearing turbans and harem pants and other man-repelling things. I guess mostly because those things seem fussy, contrived, and uncomfortable to me. But If I am wearing a giant oversized tee, I am wearing skinny jeans and 7-inch wedges. I definitely dress for the opposite sex because I like looking attractive. I don’t dress like a Williamsburg Silvia-Plath-quoting hipster with like, a half-shaved head, thrift store sweater, fugly hipster shoes, no makeup, and mustard-colored MC Hammer pants. That to me isn’t style or originality, that’s just…looking ugly. I like to look sexy, so I wear the silhouettes that showcase the right places, but always in the right balance. (if I’m wearing booty shorts, I’m wearing a tshirt and blazer; and if I’m wearing a mini dress, I’m usually wearing converse or a like, a sweatshirt with it). I’d rather look sexy with hair and makeup and wear a simple American Apparel dress though. But something I’m wearing is generally always sexy. Who wants to look fug? I don’t know why people dress like that. And that, my friends, is a stream of consciousness treatise on my style. Whatever. I had fun.

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Weekend Update

Friday: My boyfriend and I went on a lil’ date to JALEO. If you have never been to Jaleo, my advice is this: go to Jaleo. It is authentic Spanish tapas cuisine and I am in heaven when I am there and feel like I am back in Barcelona. The Sangria, the fucking amazing milk and goat’s cheeses that come with orange marmelade and honey and macadamia nuts…BACON WRAPPED DATES [a literal taste orgasm in your mouth], delicious sausages and gazpacho and papas fritas…it’s just a veritable carnival of deliciousness. I am also a really big fan of variety so I would rather have 10 small-bite dishes of olives and cheeses and bread and cured meats and and small portions of soups and vegetables, rather than one large entree. Basically Jaleo is my favorite.

After dinner, we saw a 9:30 showing of Win-Win a.ka. THE BEST MOVIE OF MY LIFE. I can’t….I can’t even start on how good this movie was. You MUST see it. I would watch it 3 more times in a row. It was the official selection at Sundance, for a reason. I was dogsitting all weekend– gotta get that monayyy– so after the movie, my boyfriend slept over with me because I’m always scared to be in stranger’s houses alone– not that weird of a thing to be scared of haha. On Saturday morning he made me scrambled eggs, potatoes, and cinnamon rolls [he's a keeper that one], and we effed around with nothing to do because as I’ve said before- SATURDAYS ARE SO BORING, if the weather is cold. Saturdays in the summer– the best. Saturdays when it’s cold– just don’t. Hung out with my friend Kate for the afternoon with intermittent dog walking, and then my boyfriend made pork chops, asparagus, and leftover potatoes with rosemary from breakfast for us for dinner [I won the lottery because there is nothing I value more than not having to cook], and then we got ready for the Cold War Kids concert. They were……..UHHHHH MAY ZING. I’ve loved them for yeeaaarrss and Nathan Willett, the lead singer, blew our MINDS with how insane is voice is. His voice/their sound is like a combination of Pearl Jam/Eddie Vetter, Kings of Leon, Rolling Stones, and Muse. They were SOOOOOOOOOOOOO lively and charismatic and such forces on stage. I have seen a billion concerts, and of all the people I’ve seen live, there are four who I would say to friends/strangers that they mustmustMUST attempt to see in their lives– only four who astounded me with their talent and who are better live than on cd because of how their personalities and raw talent come across live in person, without any producing or tweaking:
Cold War Kids, Crystal Castles, Ratatat, and Florence and the Machine. If I had to pick ONE of those, I would pick Ratatat. Amazing, huh? And if I had to pick two it would be Ratatat and Cold War Kids. And if three, Crystal Castles would make the cut. Florence would be 4th. Second group up after those 4 would be The XX. My rankings may be different though after I see Adele live in a few weeks here. It was pretty unintentionally cute because the first night my boyfriend and I kissed/I slept over at his place, we stayed up till like 7 a.m. listening to the Cold War Kids pandora station. And this concert haaaaaaaaaappened to fall on the night of our six month anniversary! Sunday he made homemade bacon, egg, and cheese mcmuffins [wtf], and we hung out until I went shopping for his food surprise. And then we met up and watched The Fighter. And now here we are. Monday night. Me blogging, and him wishing I would exist in the real world and stop blogging. Hope ya’ll had a good weekend too, and GO. SEE. WIN WIN!

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Baby’s gotta eat

My boyfriend started a new job a few weeks ago and as per usual with new jobs, especially jobs in sales, he pretty much never has time to eat lunch. He, like his girlfriend, doesn’t pack a lunch because it’s just not his style to make a pb & j and ziplock-bag some apple slices, so the poor guy calls me at at 2 o’clock every day being like “I AM STARVING.” He keeps running out of time to run off campus to grab something in between appointments. And so I was always like “you need to have stuff stocked under your desk- granola bars and crackers and nuts and energy bars to keep you going until you have time to zip away and grab takeout.” But I knew he would never get around to doing it because he has better things to do than grocery shop for nuts to store at his desk.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I decided to whip up a little surprise for him. I went to the container store yesterday and got a big plastic bin [ps- the container store is CRACK for me. I spent an embarassing amount of money. Like I literally think I need therapy because of how helpless I am against container store merchandise]. I got crinkly orange paper, metallic silver tissue paper, and a big sparkly ribbon, and a whiteboard that he could keep at his desk, since it’s an office-y thing, but also worked perfectly to stick in the bin with my message explaining the present. Side story: I have such a HARD time shopping for boys because I just don’t know how to think outside of being a girl. I saw this supercute pastel blue whiteboard, and I wanted to get it but realized at the last minute that pastel blue wasn’t exactly masculine. So I faltered at the cash regsiter and asked the lady “ughhhhh is this too feminine for my boyfriend?” And she was like “Girl, it’s pastel. I have sons. Please do me a favor and put that whiteboard down.” And I was like “UGHH BUT IT’S SO CUTTTEE!!! are you SURE?” And she just stared at me, knowing I knew her answer. We had a great rapport. So I went back to look for other colors and the only other one was orange. And I brought it back and she was like, verbatim, “CHILD, PLEASE- I HAVE. TWO. SONS. THEY WOULDN’T BE CAUGHT DEAD WITH A PASTEL BLUE OR NEON ORANGE WHITE BOARD AT THEIR DESK. Please go get this poor boy a plain white board.” She was shaking her head “NO” like I had just brought back a “Hello Kitty”-themed whiteboard. And I giggled and begrudgingly went back and got a white one. I can’t understand boys. I was like- BUT IT’S SO PRETTY!!! The last thing I wanted to do was let go of those colored whiteboards. But I did. SO after the Container Store, I got yummy salted pistachios from Whole Foods; two boxes of nuture grain bars; a box of peanut-butter Cliff bars; two bags of chex mix; two boxes of goldfish; a thing of ritz; slim jims (Here I started to think more like a boy. I was like- there are zero boys that DON’T like slim jim even though I think it’s sickkkk); a six pack of gatorade; a pack of Starbucks bottled espresso drinks; two instant mac&cheese cups that you just microwave; and a biggg bag of potato chips. I think there were some other goodies but I can’t remember. I got one of those plastic Chinese takeout containers from the Container store and filled that with the ritz and slim jims and mac and cheese, and then stuck that into the big plastic box and surrounded it with everything else…I wanted to break up the boringness of a big plastic box with something additional for him to have to open, i.e. the Chinese carry-out box. I wrote a cute little note for him on the white board, stuck a big red heart on it, added a card to the outside, and then had my friend who works with him (and also happens to be MY ROOMMATE!) take it to work with her and sneak it to his desk while he was at lunch. I was very excited and he was thrilled : )

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